Sunday is Mother’s Day, a celebration that has been around in one form or another since the days of the Roman Empire. I wonder if they had mom centric songs back then?
Well, we sure do. Here are my picks for this week’s theme:
So who says that songs about moms must always be cheery and fun loving? That’s certainly not a realistic view of parenthood or life in general. And what better genre to take on a sad song about being a mom than country music? My first pick has that beautiful twangy country sound from the late 1950s. Musicianship played an important role then, and the Carter Family’s mournful melodies still held sway for many artists, including the legendary Kitty Wells.
Kitty Wells was country music’s first female superstar. She’s often overshadowed by Patsy Klein, but Wells was the first in many areas of county music: She was the first to record an LP and the only female solo artist between 1953 and 1955 to maintain her success, especially on the charts. Her 1955 hit "Making Believe" is considered one of the greatest songs in country music history. Her voice, with its slight falsetto in a minor key, has a big influence on later vocalists, like Iris DeMint.
It’s that voice that captures the sadness behind her 1959 hit "Mommy for a Day." The tune was written by two men -- country music’s Harlan Howard and Buck Owens. It tells the story of a mother whose husband has kicked her out of their house because of rumors of infidelity. Now she can see her daughter only on Sundays. Here’s a verse:
"She's much too young to realize why mommy can't come home
And that her daddy wanted things this way
We kiss goodbye and my heart breaks to walk away alone
To have to be her mommy for a day"
This is a timeless song, as I’m sure hundreds of divorced or separated couples can relate to all the emotions involved in child visitation. As I warned: not an upbeat ode to moms or motherhood.
My own mom has taken on many roles over the course of mothering, which by the way, NEVER ends. Let’s see, there’s doctor, teacher, comedian, chef and of course, counselor and confidant.
Sometimes we need mom there just to hear us out without offering any unsolicited advice or passing judgment. So here you have Sarah Vaughn confessing to Mama about the man she’s taken up with. "Mama He Treats Your Daughter Mean" was first recorded by R&B legend Ruth Brown in 1953, when jazz and blues crossed paths and created jump blues and later R&B.
Ruth had two versions: a mid-tempo rocker and the more upbeat horn driven version. In 1962, Sarah Vaughn, along with the Quincy Jones Orchestra, gave it a more jazzy twist with a hint of cha-cha. The Divine One sounds like she’s one her knees on the last chorus, pouring out her confession and mom sits and listens with utter sympathy and compassion, maybe nodding every now and again. One of the highlights of the tune is the chicken clucking trumpet in the beginning of the song:
This next tune falls into the mom-as-solid-as-a-rock category. Here’s The Scissor Sisters with their 2004 hit "Take Your Mama," which is basically about a young gay man coming out to his mom. (Maybe I should have taken my mother out when I broke the news to her, although she did take it very well.) It’s a fun romp on a serious subject 'cause hey, sometimes humor is the best device:
This next song is a beautiful number from Fugee’s vocalist Lauryn Hill, from her very personal 1998 debut solo, The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill. "To Zion" touches on the weighty issue of abortion and that unending debate -- career or motherhood. (As if a woman can’t have both.) Apparently, some of Hill’s friends encouraged her to have an abortion so motherhood wouldn’t interfere with her blossoming career. Here’s what Lauryn Hill once said about the song’s origin and significance:
Names wouldn't come when I was ready to have him. The only name that came to me was Zion. I was like, "Is Zion too much of a weight to carry?" But this little boy, man. I would say he personally delivered me from my emotional and spiritual drought. He just replenished my newness. When he was born, I felt like I was born again. I wanted it to be a revolutionary song about a spiritual movement, and also about my spiritual change, going from one place to another because of my son.
Now that is love for a mother’s child. Happy Mother’s Day!
We also had two guests on Eight Forty Eight today, rockin' music moms who each provided song picks.
Kori Gardner is one-half of the couple team Mates of State. For years, she wrote a music blog called "Band on the (Diaper) Run." Her kids are now diaper free, but they still travel on tour with Kori and her husband. One song that Gardner said reminds her of her relationship both with her kids and her own mother is Tom Petty's "Wildflowers." A sweet sentiment for any child from their mother, Petty sings, "You belong among the wildflowers."
Gardner also played an original composition, a song called "Nature and the Wreck," a song which Gardner said she wrote for her daughters.
Jessica Hopper also joined us in studio for Music Thursday. She is a Chicago music critic and author of the book The Girl's Guide to Rocking. With two kids under two, Hopper certainly has her hands full, and says "Song for the Baby" by Kelis is the "mommy jam" that gets her through it.
Hopper also selected a song that she likes to listen to with her kids. Elizabeth Mitchell, formerly of the band Ida, covered the Bill Withers classic "Lovely Day." A little while back Mitchell actually performed the song live at WBEZ's studios; it'll be part of our Live Music Thursday series, to be posted later today.