WBEZ | Romance http://www.wbez.org/tags/romance Latest from WBEZ Chicago Public Radio en Wheelchair-bound couple describes budding romance http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/wheelchair-bound-couple-describes-budding-romance-110626 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/main-images/StoryCorps 140808 Greg Rebecca_bh.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>&ldquo;We&rsquo;ve actually known each other for six years,&rdquo; Rebecca Wylie says while talking to her boyfriend Greg Anger in this week&rsquo;s StoryCorps, recorded at the Chicago Cultural Center. They met on Facebook when he was a freshman at the University of Missouri, her alma mater.</p><p>&ldquo;I was in the hospital and I was not sleeping, and Greg was the only one on Facebook at one in the morning, and it kind of just turned into a romance.&rdquo; &ldquo;You&rsquo;re a tough egg to crack, let me tell you,&rdquo; Anger says.</p><p>Wylie is working towards a Law Degree from Loyola University in Chicago with a focus on health care. She is also a quadriplegic, and uses a wheelchair. &ldquo;I wasn&rsquo;t born with my disability,&rdquo; she says. &rdquo;I was seven years old when it happened. So I do know what it&rsquo;s like to ride a bike and run around.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;What about you?&rdquo; she asks Anger, who is getting a Master&rsquo;s in higher education administration from the University of Alabama, and who also uses a wheelchair. &ldquo;You haven&rsquo;t had the experience of riding a bike like everyone else.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;Everything that I&rsquo;ve gotten in my life is somehow connected to me being disabled,&rdquo; Anger said. &ldquo;Which is weird because it&rsquo;s not something that I like to use to identify myself, like, &lsquo;That&rsquo;s the wheelchair basketball player,&rsquo; or &lsquo;That&rsquo;s the guy in the wheelchair.&rsquo; And I don&rsquo;t really like that per se, but then again everything I have gotten in my life is because I&rsquo;m disabled. I wouldn&rsquo;t have went to the University of Missouri to play basketball. I wouldn&rsquo;t have started talking to you.&rdquo;</p><p>And it&rsquo;s the talking to each other that has helped sustain both of them through difficult times.</p><p>&ldquo;It&rsquo;s kind of hard for me to put into words,&rdquo; Anger said. &ldquo;She has a wonderful heart and personality.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;He&rsquo;s just very accepting of who I am regardless of any of my abilities or disabilities,&rdquo; Wylie said.</p><p>&ldquo;Living with a disability provides so many daily challenges,&rdquo; she said. &ldquo;And you have no idea what those challenges are going to be because everyday the challenge is something different. Dealing with that and pushing through it, are the hardest and most rewarding things.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;There&rsquo;s really nothing we can&rsquo;t do together,&rdquo; Anger said. &ldquo;If you&rsquo;re gonna get me to move back to the freezing cold Midwest, you can pretty much do anything because I will tell you that that was not on my plans and now there&rsquo;s nowhere I don&rsquo;t want to be as long as you&rsquo;re there too.&rdquo;</p><p><iframe frameborder="no" height="450" scrolling="no" src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/playlists/6250422&amp;color=ff5500&amp;auto_play=false&amp;hide_related=false&amp;show_artwork=true&amp;show_comments=true&amp;show_user=true&amp;show_reposts=false" width="888px"></iframe></p></p> Fri, 08 Aug 2014 15:19:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/wheelchair-bound-couple-describes-budding-romance-110626 List: Questions that get all women horny http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2013-05/list-questions-get-all-women-horny-107278 <p><p dir="ltr" id="docs-internal-guid-611c1eea-c3bc-5f17-fc77-121e36ca0b59"><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/2651951457_6b082c73b6.jpg" style="float: right; height: 450px; width: 300px;" title="Flickr/Rob Gallop" /><em>This list was inspired by a spam email I keep getting titled &quot;Three questions that make every women horny,&quot; so in case you&rsquo;re my dad or someone like him, I don&rsquo;t even know what the word &quot;horny&quot; means, OK?</em></p><p>I put all the dishes away, is that OK?</p><p>You mean to tell me that you are actually 13 years older than you appear? Is it possible that I could even be more attracted to you than I was initially?</p><p>Do you mind if I just take care of the laundry? There is a certain way that I like to do it.</p><p>Will it bother you if I scratch your head for a while? &nbsp;</p><p>Don&rsquo;t you think you need a new pair of boots to really pull that outfit together?</p><p>That dinner was so delicious, will you please make it for me again? Scratch that. Will you share the recipe with me and I&rsquo;ll just make it myself in the near future, with possible riffs and improvements?</p><p>How can it be that you&rsquo;ve said something so insightful when you just said something even more witty before that and are likely to blow my mind again momentarily?</p><p>Do all female celebrities know how inferior they are to you?</p><p>Did you recently lose weight and/or gain muscle?</p><p><em>Follow Claire Zulkey&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/Zulkey">@Zulkey</a></em></p></p> Tue, 21 May 2013 08:58:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2013-05/list-questions-get-all-women-horny-107278 Be awesome, write letters http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-02/be-awesome-write-letters-105400 <p><p><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/letters.jpg" style="float: right; " title="Pretty, vintage-inspired stationary from the Chicago-based company 16 Sparrows. Papergoods are sold online [www.presentandcorrect.com] or at local retailers Greer [1657 North Wells] and The Boring Store [1331 N. Milwaukee]. (16sparrows.com)" />Last fall, I saw a little indie film called <em><a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1872818/" target="_blank">Liberal Arts</a>&nbsp;</em>in which the main character (Josh Radnor of&nbsp;<em>How I Met Your Mother</em>) and his college-age love interest (Elizabeth Olsen of <em>Martha Marcy May Marlene</em>) write letters to each other during their months apart. The young coed sends him mixes of her favorite classical composers, and he responds with handwritten words of wisdom from the authors of his favorite books. The whole scenario was almost too precious to be taken seriously, yet somehow affected me deeply as a hopeless romantic in a post-modern world.&nbsp;</p><p>Letter writing is a lost art (case in point: these wickedly-worded <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2012/12/this-was-like-dating-a-priest-famous-authors-breakup-letters/266308/#slide6" target="_blank">breakup letters</a>&nbsp;from literary greats) but still fully capable of a revival in the new millenillium.&nbsp;Hipsters are buying vinyl records instead of CDs, typewriters instead of computers and vintage finds from the Salvation Army over knock-offs from Forever 21. So why not go back to good old-fashioned letter writing as a means of creating more meaningful, artistic and uniquely personal connections with others?</p><p>The <a href="http://16sparrows.typepad.com/letterwritersalliance/" target="_blank">Letter Writers Alliance</a>&nbsp;began as a way to unite &quot;isolated epistle enthiasists&quot; on a local level, and has since evolved into a worldwide organization that strives to preserve letter writing as an irreplaceable art form. Founded in 2007 by Chicago-based &quot;paper nerds&quot; <a href="http://www.16sparrows.com/about/faq.html" target="_blank">Kathy Zadrozny and Donovan Beeson</a>, the Alliance now includes over 2,700 members and offers a wide range of free printable downloads, exclusive member products and vintage postal items. Lifetime memberships are only $5 to start, and well worth the mere 66 cents for <a href="http://16sparrows.com/LWA/membership.html" target="_blank">first-class delivery</a> of a member card, badge, postcard and welcome letter.</p><p>Zadrozny and Beeson also run the online papergoods shop&nbsp;<a href="http://www.16sparrows.com" target="_blank">16 Sparrows</a>, which provides a multitude of cute and quirky cards for the unconventional letter-writer. Their devotion to &quot;smart-ass pretty things&quot; runs the gamut from vintage telegram stationary to velociraptor thank you notes, but their&nbsp;<a href="http://16sparrows.com/LWA/PS-Pigeon-Post.html" target="_blank">Pigeon Post</a>&nbsp;invention is by far the most fun (and bizarrely awesome) of all. In fact, this idea exists on a whole other plane of awesome that words simply cannot do justice, but I will try.&nbsp;<img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/Pigeon-Mailbox.jpg" style="float: left; " title="How to properly send a Pigeon Post. (16sparrows.com)" /></p><p>Each $30 &quot;carrier pigeon&quot; kit includes one 13 oz. plastic pigeon that fits perfectly inside a Global Priority Mail Box, three pigeon post message forms, three mailing label pouches, instructions on how to mail and postage stamps for one mailing. Refills of message forms and mailing pouches are only $10 each, so you can keep your pigeon a&#39;traveling on.&nbsp;</p><p>If this isn&#39;t the ultimate way to &quot;<a href="http://www.putabirdonit.com" target="_blank">put a bird on it</a>,&quot; then I don&#39;t know what is.&nbsp;</p><p>In a culture that relies on impersonal emails and <a href="http://www.iemoji.com" target="_blank">emoji</a>-loaded texts as our most common forms of communication, try making someone&#39;s day with a few extra words (or better yet, a thoughtful essay) of kindness and gratitude. The gifts that I value the most in life are not necessarily the most expensive or the most showy, but rather those thoughful little gems that cost relatively nothing and were made especially for me: handwritten letters, birthday cards, paintings, collages, mixtapes, short stories, picture frames, comic books starring me and my friends in <a href="http://www.comicvine.com/the-atomic-county/65-57667/">funny superhero outfits</a>, etc.&nbsp;</p><p>Thank you notes in particular have become woefully undervalued these days, especially with the rapid-fire convenience of social media literally right at our fingertips. However, if you want to land your <a href="http://instagram.com/p/P2tr3YL8E6/" target="_blank">dream job</a>,&nbsp;show someone that you care without blowing your entire paycheck or simply avoid the blackhole of <a href="http://www.16sparrows.com/shop/L_corporate-holiday.html" target="_blank">corporate holiday&nbsp;</a>greed, a heartfelt letter of appreciation will go a long way. Maybe not as far as a <a href="http://www.empireonline.com/features/greatest-harry-potter-characters/" target="_blank">Hogwarts owl</a> or carrier pigeon, but it&#39;s the thought that counts.&nbsp;</p><p><em>Follow Leah on Twitter <a href="http://twitter.com/leahkpickett" target="_blank">@leahkpickett</a>,&nbsp;add her on<a href="http://www.facebook.com/leahkristinepickett"> Facebook</a>&nbsp;or send her a pigeon post if you feel so inclined.</em></p></p> Fri, 08 Feb 2013 08:00:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-02/be-awesome-write-letters-105400 An anthropologist on breakups in the digital age http://www.wbez.org/story/anthropologist-breakups-digital-age-95509 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/story/photo/2012-January/2012-01-12/iPhone love_flickr_Royan Lee.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>When anthropologist Illana Gershon interviewed her Indiana University students as part of her research on social media and relationships, she posed this question to one of her classes: If you and your sweetie are “Facebook official,” what happens when the relationship ends? Whose job is it to change the relationship status: the person who got dumped or the person who did the dumping?</p><p>An attractive blonde replied with great confidence, “I know the answer to this one! My entire sorority knows the answer to this one!”</p><p>“It’s always the one who’s dumped,” she explained.</p><p>She then paused for a moment, “But not everyone on campus knows this.”</p><p>It was quips like this, Gershon says, that made her realize we are still in the early, Wild West days of digital etiquette, especially when it comes to using these technologies to navigate our romantic relationships. What is ok to us and our group of friends might be unacceptable elsewhere, because nothing has been standardized or codified.</p><p>When doing anthropological surveys, Gershon says that by the 20<sup>th</sup> or 30<sup>th</sup> interview a pattern will usually emerge, a kind of predictability. But not in this case.</p><p>As she interviewed her students, she found their habits and values to be wildly unpredictable. “In every interview I’d have a moment where I’d want to say, you do what?!” she says. The results of her interviews ended up in her book, <em>The</em> <em>Breakup 2.0</em>: <em>Disconnecting over New Media.</em></p><p>In the early days of the telephone Thomas Edison and Alexander Graham Bell fought over what one should say when one picked up the ringer. (Edison argued for “Hello,” while Bell argued for the sprightly “Ahoy!”)</p><p>In the early ‘80s, the Replacements’ Paul Westerberg wondered aloud “how do you say I’m lonely/to an answering machine”.</p><p>We’re all trying to find our way through each new technology, and apparently, some of us are like Berger in <em>Sex and the City</em>, in that we think it’s ok to break up with Carrie via a Post-it note. (Or over IM, if you’re one of Gershon’s students.)</p><p>Listen to the audio above for more of Gershon’s eyebrow raising examples of her students internet breakup habits, or leave your own examples in the comments.</p><p><em><a href="../../series/dynamic-range">Dynamic Range</a></em> showcases hidden gems unearthed from <em>Chicago Amplified’s</em> vast archive of public events and appears on weekends. Illana Gershon was interviewed by <em>Time Out Chicago’s</em> Madeline Nusser at an event presented by the <a href="http://www.chicagohumanities.org/Default.aspx">Chicago Humanities Festival</a> in November of 2011. Click <a href="../../story/breakup-20-94573">here</a> to hear the event in its entirety.</p></p> Fri, 13 Jan 2012 12:00:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/story/anthropologist-breakups-digital-age-95509 Wild Flag performs for 'Sound Opinions' at WBEZ studios http://www.wbez.org/content/wild-flag-performs-sound-opinions-wbez-studios <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/story/photo/2011-November/2011-11-10/WildFlag.jpg" alt="" /><p><p><iframe allowfullscreen="" src="http://player.vimeo.com/video/31875880?title=0&amp;byline=0&amp;portrait=0&amp;color=cc0422" webkitallowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="338" width="601"></iframe><br> <strong>Wild Flag "Short Version" from <em>Wild Flag</em> (Merge)</strong></p><p>Longtime rock music fans have a tendency toward jadedness. After ten or more years of record collecting, concert attending and fanzine reading new bands can start to all sound the same. In their hit song "Cut Your Hair" Pavement's Stephen Malkmus sang, "bands start up each and every day/I saw another one just the other day, a special new band...I don't remember a line, I don't remember a word," perfectly illustrating the creep of ennui so common in the music scene.</p><p>Malkmus' Portland, Ore. neighbors in Wild Flag break through this malaise with an infectious style and swagger that's hard to deny. Our resident music critic Jim DeRogatis gave their debut album <a href="http://www.wbez.org/blog/jim-derogatis/2011-09-08/album-review-wild-flag-%E2%80%98wild-flag%E2%80%99-merge-91659">four out of four stars</a> calling it "not only one of the year’s strongest albums, but one of the strongest and most promising debuts in recent memory." The band builds up from '70s guitar rock like Television and adds elements of Motown girl groups, math rock and garage punk to build memorable pop songs.</p><p>Of course the music world had high expectations from the moment Wild Flag was announced due to its members' collective pedigree- Sleater-Kinney, Helium, The Minders, Quasi, Elliott Smith, Bright Eyes, Stephen Malkmus and the Jicks are among their past musical projects. Add to that the unexpected success of Carrie Brownstein's sketch comedy IFC show, <em>Portlandia</em>, and there was a lot of anticipation around Wild Flag.</p><p>When the band stopped by WBEZ studios for a live <em>Sound Opinions</em> session, they delivered on the raw promise of their enthusiastic live shows. Each hook was crisply excecuted, each fill pounded with precision. Enjoy these videos of one of our most exciting sessions to date.</p><p><iframe allowfullscreen="" src="http://player.vimeo.com/video/31921258?title=0&amp;byline=0&amp;portrait=0&amp;color=cc0422" webkitallowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="338" width="601"></iframe><br> <strong>Wild Flag "Romance" from <em>Wild Flag</em> (Merge)</strong></p><p><iframe allowfullscreen="" src="http://player.vimeo.com/video/31868758?title=0&amp;byline=0&amp;portrait=0&amp;color=cc0422" webkitallowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="338" width="601"></iframe><br> <strong>Wild Flag "Nothing" unreleased</strong></p><p><iframe allowfullscreen="" src="http://player.vimeo.com/video/31875847?title=0&amp;byline=0&amp;portrait=0&amp;color=cc0422" webkitallowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="338" width="601"></iframe><br> <strong>Wild Flag "Black Tiles" from <em>Wild Flag</em> (Merge)</strong></p></p> Thu, 10 Nov 2011 19:48:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/content/wild-flag-performs-sound-opinions-wbez-studios