WBEZ | sex http://www.wbez.org/tags/sex Latest from WBEZ Chicago Public Radio en What We Know So Far About Sexual Transmission of Zika Virus http://www.wbez.org/news/what-we-know-so-far-about-sexual-transmission-zika-virus-114711 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org//main-images/zika-sexual-transmission_wide-407a439f5f5dfd199fe8d76b5df26c7ed1e1b570-s800-c85.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>A patient acquired Zika virus in the U.S. through sex with a person who had traveled to a place where the virus is circulating, Dallas County, Texas, health officials and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention&nbsp;<a href="http://www.dallascounty.org/department/hhs/press/documents/PR2-2-16DCHHSReportsFirstCaseofZikaVirusThroughSexualTransmission.pdf">reported&nbsp;</a>Tuesday.</p><p>This is not the first time that the virus has been sexually transmitted, and it most likely isn&#39;t the first time it&#39;s been sexually transmitted in the U.S.</p><p>In 2008, two scientists returned to Colorado after months of field work in Senegal, where they&#39;d been bitten by&nbsp;Aedes aegypti, the species of mosquito that transmits Zika virus.</p><p>One of them ended up passing the virus to his wife, most likely during intercourse. The couple noticed that the husband&#39;s semen had been bloody for a few days before the wife felt sick. She later tested positive for Zika, even though she had not left the U.S. in years. The pair co-authored a paper on their case, which has&nbsp;<a href="http://www.sciencemag.org/news/2011/04/sex-after-field-trip-yields-scientific-first">been called</a>&nbsp;the first documented case of sexual transmission of an insect-borne disease.</p><p>During a Zika virus outbreak in French Polynesia in 2013, the virus&nbsp;<a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4313657/">was isolated&nbsp;</a>from the bloody semen of a man in Tahiti. This was a few weeks after he had symptoms, and while his blood no longer contained traces of the virus, his urine did, and his semen contained live virus capable of replicating. The authors speculate that the virus may have replicated in the man&#39;s genital tract.</p><p>Similarly, Japanese researchers studying boars infected with a virus in the same family as Zika&nbsp;<a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/203101">isolated</a>&nbsp;virus from the urine and semen of boars that was capable of infecting a female through artificial insemination.</p><p>Is sexual transmission definitely possible? &quot;Well, it sounds like it,&quot; says&nbsp;<a href="https://www.utmb.edu/pathology/faculty/bios/Tesh.asp">Dr. Robert Tesh</a>, a professor at the University of Texas Medical Branch who studies emerging infectious diseases. But if it is, it&#39;s probably quite rare.</p><p>&quot;I know it&#39;s sexy, talking about sexual transmission, but it&#39;s still the mosquito that&#39;s the important vector,&quot; says Tesh, who co-authored the case report from Colorado.</p><p>The silver lining is that both the Colorado case and the Texas case happened in the winter, when it&#39;s too cold out for the species of mosquito that transmits the virus to be out and about. So Zika couldn&#39;t have spread to other people by mosquito.</p><p>Though the virus has been connected with birth defects in Brazil, in adults the symptoms, if any appear, are often mild and short-lived: rash, joint pain, conjunctivitis and slight fever. The CDC is trying to figure out if an uptick in cases of&nbsp;<a href="http://www.cdc.gov/zika/disease-qa.html">Guillain-Barre syndrome</a>, a neurological disorder, that was reported by the Brazil Ministry of Health is connected to Zika.</p><p>Research on a 2013 outbreak in French Polynesia, the largest known, has yielded the most information on which bodily fluids Zika hangs out in, and when.</p><p>One study found signs of the virus in the&nbsp;<a href="http://www.journalofclinicalvirology.com/article/S1386-6532(15)00133-X/abstract">saliva</a>&nbsp;of patients shortly after the onset of symptoms. A small&nbsp;<a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4285245/">study&nbsp;</a>in New Caledonia detected it in patients&#39; urine more than 10 days after their first symptoms, and more than a week after it became undetectable in blood.</p><p>A third study found the virus in the breast milk of infected mothers, and concluded that two babies who&nbsp;<a href="http://www.eurosurveillance.org/ViewArticle.aspx?ArticleId=20751">tested positive</a>&nbsp;for Zika virus within days of birth possibly acquired it from their mothers&#39; bodily fluids during pregnancy or birth.</p><p>Tesh says it&#39;s unclear how the virus remains in bodily fluids, but hypothesizes that the virus could hide in white blood cells.</p><p>&mdash; <a href="http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/02/03/465339603/what-we-know-so-far-about-sexual-transmission-of-zika-virus?ft=nprml&amp;f=465339603"><em>via NPR</em></a></p></p> Wed, 03 Feb 2016 16:13:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/news/what-we-know-so-far-about-sexual-transmission-zika-virus-114711 Porn stars on Vine: they're just like us http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-06/porn-stars-vine-theyre-just-us-107535 <p><p><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/Lexi%20Bell.jpg" style="height: 213px; width: 320px; float: left; " title="Lexi Belle working on her night cheese. (Twitter/Lexi Belle)" /></p><div class="image-insert-image ">In the olden days of pornography, the lives of the performers were mostly limited to what we saw acted out on film.</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">Of course, rabid fans knew who <a href="http://althouse.blogspot.com/2012/03/complicated-story-of-linda-lovelace.html" target="_blank">Linda Lovelace</a> was hooking up with offscreen and whether Jenna Jameson actually dated women in real life; but on the whole, porn stars existed as larger-than-life projections of what their audiences wanted them to be.</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">They played to the fantasies of millions, then disappeared back into their private lives. Under the guise of their erotic fake names and strategically-tailored public personas, they could expose every inch of themselves, yet still remain completely unknowable as human beings.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">That is, until social media came along and changed everything.</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">While Facebook continues to&nbsp;<a href="http://gawker.com/5746670/why-porn-stars-hate-facebook" target="_blank">lock out</a>&nbsp;porn stars (their &quot;no nudity&quot; policy extends to <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/03/08/chrissy-teigen-nude-photo-instagram_n_2837591.html" target="_blank">Instagram</a> as well), Twitter has welomed them with open arms. Not only can these performers tweet nude photos and other NSFW material to their personal accounts, but they can also use <a href="http://gawker.com/5979387/twitters-vine-is-americas-hottest-new-porn-search-engine" target="_blank">Vine</a>&mdash;Twitter&#39;s six-second video sharing app, the <a href="http://mashable.com/2013/01/29/vine/" target="_blank">moving picture</a> version of Instagram&mdash;to create mini-movies of themselves for the world to see.</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">However, not all of these Vines are as titillating or overtly sexual as one might think. In fact, many of them are downright mundane: driving in traffic, cooking dinner, spinning around in parking lots (fun fact: Lexi Belle and I have the same <a href="http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/10196596/" target="_blank">Ikea office chair</a>) and other activities that aren&#39;t unlike&nbsp;anything you, your sister or your best friend might capture on a given day.</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">This disarming display of normalcy is what makes these videos so remarkable. Porn stars are pulling back the curtain on their private lives and showing viewers that despite their &quot;unique&quot; career paths, they&#39;re really just like us.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image "><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/stoya.jpg" style="width: 299px; float: right; height: 299px; " title="Stoya posts adorable, non-nude photos of herself to over 3K followers on Instagram. (Instagram/Stoya) " /></div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">For example, porn actress and activist Stoya wrote a <a href="http://www.vice.com/read/stoya-on-peeking-behind-the-porn-curtain" target="_blank">wonderful piece</a> for <em>Vice</em> a couple of weeks ago that defends this cultural shift, saying that social media outlets like Twitter, Tumblr and Vine have been enormously helpful in allowing viewers to see porn stars as more than just sexual objects:&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><blockquote><div class="image-insert-image ">&quot;Porn stars can definitely be quirky and are probably more sexually liberated than the average adult, but we aren&#39;t so far removed from humanity that we&#39;re above concerns like bills and laundry,&quot; <a href="http://jezebel.com/5941068/im-a-porn-star-and-if-you-harass-me-i-will-punch-you-in-the-balls" target="_blank">Stoya</a> writes, &quot;To pretend that we are underestimates the intelligence of people who are interested in the lives of porn stars or what goes on behind the scenes of the adult film industry.&quot;</div></blockquote><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">Dylan Ryan is another porn actress who defends the right of women to be <a href="http://jezebel.com/5963606/sorry-second-wave-feminists-porn-stars-are-actually-emotionally-stable-self+confident-women-who-werent-molested-as-kids" target="_blank">sexually liberated</a> in whichever ways feel right for them, even going as far as to say that the choice of an adult film career can be both &quot;feminist&quot; and &quot;empowering.&quot;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><blockquote><div class="image-insert-image ">&quot;I am the agent of my own experience,&quot; Ryan told the <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/08/dylan-ryan-porn_n_3239838.html" target="_blank">Huffington Post</a>, &quot;One of the things that people often think about porn is that the women who are performing in it are distant from their bodies or they&#39;re there because they&#39;re getting paid or because they&#39;ve been sexually abused or because they have a very unhealthy sense of self. And while those stereotypes are based in a lot of realities that exist...that&#39;s not the experience of every performer, and that&#39;s not been my experience.&quot;</div></blockquote><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">Perhaps one can be a feminist and a porn star, a kinky exibitionist and a down-home girl who likes to Vine videos of her cat jumping onto a beanbag chair. All of us are full of contradictions, some of them surprising and often endearing: that&#39;s what makes us human.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">Does seeing photos and videos of Stoya <a href="http://stoya.tumblr.com" target="_blank">goofing off</a> with her friends or Lexi <a href="https://twitter.com/OMGitsLexi/status/341327470303272960/photo/1" target="_blank">shopping for Nutella</a> at the grocery store strip away their fantasy, or make them even more interesting&mdash;and by extension, even more sexy&nbsp;and appealing&mdash;to porn fans and naysayers alike?</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">Leave me your take on the <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/03/porn-stars-without-make-up_n_3379731.html" target="_blank">humanization of porn stars</a> (and whether this has been a positive or negative side effect of our 2013 &quot;insta-share&quot; culture) in the comments section below.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><p><em>Leah Pickett writes about popular culture for WBEZ. Follow her on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/leahkristinepickett" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://twitter.com/leahkpickett" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="http://hermionehall.tumblr.com" target="_blank">Tumblr</a>.</em></p></p> Wed, 05 Jun 2013 08:00:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-06/porn-stars-vine-theyre-just-us-107535 The child star problem http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-05/child-star-problem-107381 <p><p><img 12.="" 2002="" age="" alt="" amanda="" at="" class="image-original_image" in="" of="" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/amandashow.jpg" style="float: right; height: 301px; width: 300px; " the="" title="File: Amanda Bynes starring on &quot;The Amanda Show&quot; in 2002, at age 13. (Nickelodeon)" />Six years ago, rising teen idol Amanda Bynes went on <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fe0KuGWT-UU" target="_blank"><em>The View</em></a>&nbsp;to talk about how &quot;normal&quot; she was in comparison to other fallen child stars like Britney Spears and Lindsay Lohan:&nbsp;</p><div class="image-insert-image ">&quot;You have to have to your eye on the prize, and you have to have goals in life,&quot; she said. &quot;I want a long career, and I don&#39;t think that partying and stuff is the best way to achieve that.&quot;&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image ">Oh, how things have changed.</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Last week, Bynes was <a href="http://gawker.com/amanda-bynes-announces-plan-to-sue-nypd-get-plastic-su-510003922" target="_blank">arrested</a>&nbsp;for allegedly&nbsp;throwing a bong out of her apartment window. She then threatened to sue the NYPD for <a href="http://gawker.com/amanda-bynes-claims-she-never-owned-a-bong-doesnt-smo-509867053" target="_blank">sexual harrassment</a>&nbsp;after they sent her to the psych ward for an evaluation.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">This event is just the latest in a string of bizarre antics from Bynes over the past year: a DUI in April 2012, two hit-and-runs, a mass firing of all her staff members, a now-infamous&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/AmandaBynes" target="_blank">Twitter account</a> that grows more disturbing and nonsensical by the day and a <a href="http://gawker.com/5993761/what-the-hell-is-going-on-with-amanda-bynes-a-treatise" target="_blank">wigged-out new look </a>that is shocking to say the least.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">What happened to the bubbly child actress whose<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amanda_Bynes" target="_blank">&nbsp;prodigious talent</a>&nbsp;earned her a spot on Nickelodeon&#39;s <em>All That&nbsp;</em>by age 10, her own sketch comedy show&nbsp;at age 13 and a slew of memorable film roles (<em>What A Girl Wants</em>, <em>She&#39;s the Man</em>) before her 21st birthday?</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Or, even more importantly, what happened to&nbsp;<a href="http://listverse.com/2009/04/19/top-10-child-stars-gone-bad/" target="_blank">all of the other child stars</a>&nbsp;whose once-promising careers turned into hellish downward spirals of drug abuse, sex scandals, bouts with mental illness, multiple trips to rehab and for many, tragic and untimely death?</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">For as long as &quot;stage moms&quot; have been shoving their kids in front of cameras, child stars have been turning to drugs or engaging in other harmful behaviors in order to reconcile the&nbsp;<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_actor#Post-success_troubles" target="_blank">damaging psychological effects of early fame</a>. &nbsp;Notable examples include Judy Garland, Bobby Driscoll, Michael Jackson, Corey Haim, Jonathon Brandis, Dana Plato, Brad Renfro and River Phoenix&mdash;all of whom died of either a drug overdose or suicide after spending the majority of their childhoods in the glaring spotlight.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Some have been able to turn their lives around (like Todd Bridges and Drew Barrymore) while only a&nbsp;<a href="http://www.toptenz.net/top-10-child-stars-whose-lives-were-not-ruined-by-fame.php" target="_blank">select group </a>&nbsp;has managed to avoid the self-destructive tendencies that befell so many others.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">In most cases though, the vast majority of these success stories resulted from either a career redirection or departure from the industry altogether. For example: Shirley Temple turned to a career in politics and diplomacy, Ron Howard stepped behind the camera, and a long list of others (including Jodie Foster, Natalie Portman and Claire Danes) took a break to attend college and experience at least a small slice of normalcy for once in their lives.</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Perhaps that&#39;s all they need: a step back, a break from stardom and a chance to be &quot;normal.&quot; Still, early fame and depression are often inextricably linked. Career slumps are difficult for adults to handle; but for children whose egos are still painfully fragile and whose brains haven&#39;t fully developed, the pit falls of fame are even more confusing, scary and mentally devastating beyond repair.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">A few years ago, former child star and recovering drug addict Corey Feldman (<em>The Goonies</em>, <em>Stand by Me</em>) revealed that <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=McpjA-PqrKU" target="_blank">pedophilia</a> is the biggest problem facing children in Hollywood.</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">However, he also admitted that growing up in front of the camera (he started acting in commercials at age three) had already laid the groundwork for a descent into depression and drug abuse; and that without proper guidance, the same could happen to anyone. &nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Maybe we can&#39;t prevent child stars from self-destructing, but we can take steps to stop perpetuating the cycle.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Popular media: stop sexualizing children. Tabloids: leave them alone. Responsible adults: be parents, not enablers. And for goodness sake, let&nbsp;Quvenzhané Wallis wear her <a href="http://style.mtv.com/2013/02/24/2013-oscars-quvenzhane-wallis-puppy-purse/" target="_blank">puppy purse </a>for as long as possible. She may be a <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/quvenzhane-wallis-best-actress-oscar-nominee-to-star-as-annie-2013242" target="_blank">Best Actress nominee</a> with many exciting roles ahead of her, but she&#39;ll only be a 9-year-old once.&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style=""><em>Leah Pickett writes about popular culture for WBEZ. Follow her on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/leahkristinepickett" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://twitter.com/leahkpickett" target="_blank">Twitter</a>&nbsp;or <a href="http://hermionehall.tumblr.com" target="_blank">Tumblr</a>.</em></div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div></p> Wed, 29 May 2013 08:00:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-05/child-star-problem-107381 List: Questions that get all women horny http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2013-05/list-questions-get-all-women-horny-107278 <p><p dir="ltr" id="docs-internal-guid-611c1eea-c3bc-5f17-fc77-121e36ca0b59"><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/2651951457_6b082c73b6.jpg" style="float: right; height: 450px; width: 300px;" title="Flickr/Rob Gallop" /><em>This list was inspired by a spam email I keep getting titled &quot;Three questions that make every women horny,&quot; so in case you&rsquo;re my dad or someone like him, I don&rsquo;t even know what the word &quot;horny&quot; means, OK?</em></p><p>I put all the dishes away, is that OK?</p><p>You mean to tell me that you are actually 13 years older than you appear? Is it possible that I could even be more attracted to you than I was initially?</p><p>Do you mind if I just take care of the laundry? There is a certain way that I like to do it.</p><p>Will it bother you if I scratch your head for a while? &nbsp;</p><p>Don&rsquo;t you think you need a new pair of boots to really pull that outfit together?</p><p>That dinner was so delicious, will you please make it for me again? Scratch that. Will you share the recipe with me and I&rsquo;ll just make it myself in the near future, with possible riffs and improvements?</p><p>How can it be that you&rsquo;ve said something so insightful when you just said something even more witty before that and are likely to blow my mind again momentarily?</p><p>Do all female celebrities know how inferior they are to you?</p><p>Did you recently lose weight and/or gain muscle?</p><p><em>Follow Claire Zulkey&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/Zulkey">@Zulkey</a></em></p></p> Tue, 21 May 2013 08:58:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2013-05/list-questions-get-all-women-horny-107278 Philosophy and Sex http://www.wbez.org/blogs/bez/2013-02/philosophy-and-sex-105392 <p><div class="image-insert-image "><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/love-images-wallpaper.jpg" style="height: 388px; width: 620px;" title="Philosophy and Sex (dailyscreens.com)" /></div><p>Arguably, Alain De Botton is the most widely read English language philosopher in the world. In fact, if you take into account how many languages his books have been translated into, he is perhaps the single most popularly read philosopher in the world today.</p><p>A big part of his popularity is that he has published on topics that are part of everyone&rsquo;s lives: anxiety, travel, architecture, religion and work. And now he has turned his attention to a topic that has been a &ldquo;source of needless neurotic frustration for most of human history&rdquo; &ndash; sex!</p><p>De Botton&rsquo;s new book, <em>How To Think More About Sex</em>, is not a sex manual that offers (philosophical?) insights on how to have more intense and better sex. Rather, it is a series of reflections on the general complexity of life and how all of us, to some degree or another, are unhappy with or unfulfilled in our sex lives. The goal of the book is to help us feel &ldquo;a little less painfully strange about the sex we are either longing to have or struggling to avoid.&rdquo;</p><p>Frankly, this is not a book I would give my wife, partner or lover on Valentine&rsquo;s Day. De Botton&rsquo;s thesis &ndash; though thoughtful and more than a little correct &ndash; is a downer.</p><p>Although De Botton recognizes that sex can be satisfying, sensational, and even transcendent, most of the time, he claims, it is pedestrian, purely functional or disappointing. To be fair, De Botton&rsquo;s argues that the problem isn&rsquo;t sex per se. Rather, he maintains that the demands and complexities of life make &ldquo;great sex&rdquo; hard to achieve &ndash; because we are all too busy, too engaged, too overwhelmed by too many other things in life.</p><p>Normal life, suggests De Botton, is the enemy of &ldquo;cupidity&rdquo; (eager desire). Work, children, responsibilities, stress, anxiety, drugs, alcohol, and the unavoidable loss of intimacy that is part of all long-term relationships equals the &ldquo;death of lust&rdquo; and the end of desire.</p><p>Sadly, De Botton seems to be in agreement with Goethe when he said: &ldquo;Love is an ideal thing, marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished.&rdquo; However, I choose to take away a different lesson from this book.</p><p>Rather than just offer us a comical and negative interpretation of sex and love, I think De Botton is offering us a cautionary tale. To wit: The most difficult task in life is getting like, love and lust all in one relationship.</p></p> Wed, 13 Feb 2013 05:00:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/bez/2013-02/philosophy-and-sex-105392 How not to let your affair ruin your life http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2012-11/how-not-let-your-affair-ruin-your-life-103821 <p><div class="image-insert-image " style="text-align: center;"><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/4147369481_eaa508a4ca.jpg" title="Gen. David Petraeus, in happier times. (Flickr/DVIDSHUB)" /></div><p><span id="internal-source-marker_0.23970597767622037">Ruinous affairs! Everyone&rsquo;s having them. Here are some tips on how to have an affair and not have it ruin your life:</span></p><p><strong>Don&rsquo;t be famous or be involved with a famous person.</strong> If you need to have an affair for whatever reason, either de-famous yourself or find a &ldquo;regular&rdquo; person to have an affair with. This way, if when you get caught, far fewer people will know about it and the likelihood of your name trending on Twitter will be much lower. Also, don&rsquo;t go on <em>The Daily Show</em> to talk about the book you wrote about the person with whom you are having an affair.</p><p>On that note, <strong>don&rsquo;t ever take a picture of your genitals</strong> or anything that resembles genitals or even a guy named Richard.</p><p><strong>Don&rsquo;t send any emails to your mistress/mister. </strong>They will be found. And if they are found and you didn&rsquo;t obey Point 1, they will be published on <em>Gawker</em>. If you must tell your fellow affairee that you have the hots for him/her, the only safe way to convey this information is to dig a hole in the ground, whisper it in there and then close the hole back up.</p><p><strong>Don&rsquo;t go out of doors </strong>unless you are more than 500 miles away from the person with whom you are having an affair, lest you two be photographed together, even by satellite.</p><p><strong>Make sure the person you want to have sex with definitely wants to have sex with you.</strong> Get it in writing. Each time.</p><p><strong>Don&rsquo;t have sex with the person you are having an affair with. </strong>That way, nobody will get pregnant. Even if you are of the same gender, better to be safe than sorry.</p><p><strong>Don&rsquo;t try to keep your affair a secret from anyone.</strong> Tell your spouse, your children, your accountant and your boss. That way, if someone says,&ldquo;Say, I heard you were getting a little on the side,&rdquo; you can act like the person is a jerk for being the last one to know.</p><p>Also, <strong>don&rsquo;t have any secrets whatsoever</strong>, because somehow, if you have an affair, they will all come out. Perhaps invest in a portable scrolling electronic billboard so that all your secrets can be announced to everyone at all times of day.</p><p>Make sure the person you are having an affair with is <strong>comfortably out of range of the oldest age of legal consent </strong>in any of the 50 states. It&rsquo;s best not to have an affair with anyone under the age of 40, actually.</p><p><strong>You could be old school and not have an affair</strong>, but that may be unrealistic.</p><p>On second thought, <strong>just move to Europe</strong>. They love that stuff.</p></p> Wed, 14 Nov 2012 05:00:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2012-11/how-not-let-your-affair-ruin-your-life-103821 Enough with the hilariously awful, sexy Halloween costumes http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2012-10/enough-hilariously-awful-sexy-halloween-costumes-103348 <p><p><span id="internal-source-marker_0.7271585052102186"><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/7378519484_af8e9a265c.jpg" style="float: right; height: 487px; width: 400px; " title="A sexy...something. (Flickr/warm + fuzzy)" />Full disclosure: I have never been sexy for Halloween. One year in college I bought a pair of black wings and some sort of headband and convinced myself for a moment that I would be a &ldquo;cute bat.&rdquo; But that little voice in my head reminded me, &ldquo;You know what rhymes with &lsquo;bat&rsquo;? &lsquo;Fat.&rsquo; Everyone will think of you as the fat bat.&rdquo; Immediately that sapped whatever shred of confidence I needed to pull off any type of sexy costume then &mdash;&nbsp;</span>or ever.</p><p>This was back in the late &#39;90s/early aughts, when sexy Halloween costumes were relegated to about three things: a schoolgirl, an angel or a cat. It was sort of nice, actually. If you were purposefully sexy, you pretty much decided that you weren&rsquo;t going to be clever. And if you were a sexy nurse, there was a good chance you&rsquo;d be competing with a lot of other sexy nurses.&nbsp;It&rsquo;s sort of like guy costumes; you could be &ldquo;edgy&rdquo; by either dressing as a priest or a buxom woman, but it meant you were pretty much wearing a sign that said, &ldquo;I am not original.&rdquo;&nbsp;<br /><br />Man have things changed. Since then a whole industry has boomed around a variety of sexy costumes. If you want to look slutty on Halloween, no longer are you relegated to the same old three costumes. Now, apparently, you can be a sexy-practically-anything, including:<br /><br />Sexy <a href="http://preview.buzzfeed.com/mtvstyle/you-heard-it-here-first-sexy-sesame-street-char-2g98">Bert</a>&nbsp;or Ernie<br /><br />Sexy <a href="http://shine.yahoo.com/fashion/worst-sexy-halloween-costumes-205400394.html">hamburger</a><br /><br />Sexy <a href="http://www.joblo.com/hollywood-celebrities/gossip/how-bad-really-are-yahoos-worst-sexy-halloween-costumes">corn</a></p><p>Sexy <a href="http://zaxy.com/sexy-halloween-costumes/">Marvin the Martian</a><br /><br />Sexy <a href="http://www.buzzfeed.com/catsparella/inappropriately-sexy-halloween-costumes-1ruv">Mrs. Potato Head</a><br /><br />Sexy <a href="http://www.buzzfeed.com/annanorth/14-beloved-childrens-characters-turned-sexy-hal">Kermit the Frog</a><br /><br />Sexy <a href="http://www.yandy.com/Sexy-Lime-Wedge-Costume.php">lime</a><br /><br />(Have you noticed that most of these costumes aren&rsquo;t actually costumes but just slutty outfits with the face of the costume concept pasted onto the dress? Does that even count as a costume?)<br /><br />My theory is that we&rsquo;ve gone beyond costumery at this point and are just witnessing Halloween jokes. After all, the &ldquo;sexy mental patient&rdquo; was parodied in <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V4rUiV_Hh74">this</a> video &mdash; but is <a href="http://louisville.metromix.com/events/standard_photo_gallery/sexy-halloween-trick-and/2267096/photo/2267089">actually available</a>. This is now just a real-life meme, designed to see what inappropriate objects or characters can be co-opted into sex. I mean, the <a href="http://www.yandy.com/Sexy-Honey-Badger-Costume.php">sexy honey badger</a> is, literally, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4r7wHMg5Yjg">a meme</a> turned into a costume. I can guarantee you that there are going to be some Mitt Romney&rsquo;s binders full of women walking around this Halloween, and then we&rsquo;re going to have. . . sexy binders full of women? How will that work? (&ldquo;Duh, a binder with boobs on it, Claire.&rdquo;)<br /><br />But the point of being sexy and slutty on Halloween is to be sexy, right? To make people want to have sex with you while wearing a costume? I know people&rsquo;s standards are seriously altered when alcohol is involved, but other than Ernie, who would ever be turned on by sexy Bert? The definition of &ldquo;sexy&rdquo; is being stretched too far. Next year we&rsquo;ll probably start seeing things like a sexy Mr. Peanut, a sexy STD Test or a sexy turd. Maybe in two years we&rsquo;ll see girls dressed as sexy penises, just to see how far they can push the limits of desperate heterosexual men.<br /><br />Meanwhile, I&rsquo;m worried that women will start thinking these horrifically unsexy/sexy outfits are actually funny and will start wearing them as jokes, which really sort of ruins the whole joke experience for those of us who like actual jokes that are more about humor and less &ldquo;weird things with boobs incorporated into them.&rdquo; Soon we won&rsquo;t be able to tell what&rsquo;s really sexy and what&rsquo;s supposed to be a joke and before you know it everyone&rsquo;s going to be walking around naked every Halloween laughing about how clever and sexy everyone is. Where will that leave those of us who don&rsquo;t go for the sexy costumes? Being left alone and eating all the candy, that&rsquo;s where.<br /><br />Actually, that doesn&rsquo;t sound so bad. Carry on, you slutty weirdos. Carry on.</p></p> Wed, 24 Oct 2012 05:00:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/claire-zulkey/2012-10/enough-hilariously-awful-sexy-halloween-costumes-103348 Worldview 7.6.12 http://www.wbez.org/worldview/2012-04-10/worldview-41012-98093 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org//main-images/muslim-marriage-services.jpg" alt="" /><p><p><em>Editor&#39;s note:&nbsp; This program was originally broadcast on April 10th, 2012</em></p><p>Saudi Arabia is the sixth-largest consumer of Viagra in the world, and people in Arab countries spend billions annually on sex-enhancing drugs. <em>Worldview </em>talks with <a href="http://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href, '', 'resizable=no,status=no,location=no,toolbar=no,menubar=no,fullscreen=no,scrollbars=no,dependent=no'); return false;">Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh</a>, sex therapist and chairperson for the <a href="http://www.worldsexology.org/content/middle-east-sexual-health-committee" onclick="window.open(this.href, '', 'resizable=no,status=no,location=no,toolbar=no,menubar=no,fullscreen=no,scrollbars=no,dependent=no'); return false;">Middle Eastern Sexual Health Committee</a> at the <a href="http://www.worldsexology.org/" onclick="window.open(this.href, '', 'resizable=no,status=no,location=no,toolbar=no,menubar=no,fullscreen=no,scrollbars=no,dependent=no'); return false;">World Association for Sexual Health</a>, about the West&#39;s misconceptions of Muslim sexuality. Also,<em> Worldview</em> talks with Amir, author of <a href="http://www.zahrasparadise.com/" onclick="window.open(this.href, '', 'resizable=no,status=no,location=no,toolbar=no,menubar=no,fullscreen=no,scrollbars=no,dependent=no'); return false;"><em>Zahra&rsquo;s Paradise</em></a>. The best-selling graphic novel explores the brutal repression of Iran&#39;s post-2009 election protests.</p></p> Fri, 06 Jul 2012 09:17:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/worldview/2012-04-10/worldview-41012-98093 Sex advice columnists Em & Lo talk about. . . things we can't mention in this headline http://www.wbez.org/blogs/mark-bazer/2012-05/sex-advice-columnists-em-lo-talk-about-things-we-cant-mention-headline <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org//main-images/Em and Lo Flickr Jenn L.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>Em &amp; Lo have made careers out of talking sanely and humorously about sex and love. They are, as they describe themselves on their <a href="http://www.emandlo.com/">site</a>, &quot;opinionated but not (too) judgmental, philosophically complex yet down-to-earth, sexy but never sleazy, progressive and ethical.&quot;</p><p>The duo appeared on <em>The Interview Show</em> earlier this month and helped me feel better about my own sexual hang-ups.</p><p>Our interview is below. May be NSFW:</p><p style="text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/s93sraRKpr4" width="560"></iframe></p><p><em>The Interview Show</em> is back at The Hideout Friday June 1 at 6:30 p.m. with author Rich Cohen, artist Tony Fitzpatrick, chef Michael Kornick and more.</p></p> Thu, 31 May 2012 09:57:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/mark-bazer/2012-05/sex-advice-columnists-em-lo-talk-about-things-we-cant-mention-headline Sex in the Middle East http://www.wbez.org/worldview/2012-04-10/segment/sex-middle-east-98096 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org//main-images/AP10031807918_0.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>Here in the U.S., sex is a common topic in media and in everyday conversation. But in parts of the Middle East, sex is talked about in very different ways. These differences have led to some misconceptions in the West about how sexuality is expressed in predominantly Muslim countries. <a href="http://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/" target="_blank">Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh</a> is a sex and relationship specialist and the chair of the Middle East Sexual Health Committee at the <a href="http://www.worldsexology.org/" target="_blank">World Association for Sexual Health</a>. She joins <em>Worldview </em>to shed some light on the sexual realities of the Middle East. Also, <em>Worldview</em> takes your calls at 312-923-9239.</p></p> Tue, 10 Apr 2012 14:44:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/worldview/2012-04-10/segment/sex-middle-east-98096