WBEZ | OkCupid http://www.wbez.org/tags/okcupid Latest from WBEZ Chicago Public Radio en Internet couples, fess up to your friends http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-05/internet-couples-fess-your-friends-106914 <p><p><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/tdy_martha_dating_130429.jpg" style="height: 210px; width: 280px; float: left;" title="Martha Stewart on Today. (NBC)" />In a recent <a href="http://www.today.com/news/martha-stewart-date-online-seeks-man-bed-breakfast-6C9659426" target="_blank">interview</a> with the <em>Today Show</em>&#39;s Matt Lauer, home and garden guru <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martha_stewart" target="_blank">Martha Stewart</a>&nbsp;admitted to (gasp!) dipping her toe into online dating.&nbsp;</p><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Stewart went on <a href="http://www.match.com" target="_blank">Match.com</a>&nbsp;to find a potential date, but didn&#39;t get far in filling out her application.</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&quot;I started to laugh halfway down the page. It was, like, impossible.&quot; she said.</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><p style="">And then, lo and behold, Stewart made a live&nbsp;<em>Today Show</em> appearance Monday and agreed to <a href="http://www.today.com/news/martha-stewart-date-online-seeks-man-bed-breakfast-6C9659426" target="_blank">formally join</a> the online dating world.</p><p style="">&quot;I&#39;d like to have breakfast with somebody,&quot; Stewart admitted to the chief executive of Match, <a href="http://time100.time.com/2013/04/18/time-100/slide/sam-yagan/" target="_blank">Sam Yagan</a>,&nbsp;&quot;I&#39;d like to go to bed with somebody. Sleep with somebody.&quot;</p><p style="">These words may seem shocking coming from Stewart. But really, isn&#39;t that what everyone wants? Companionship is a basic human need, and the desire for intimacy without judgment is universal.</p><p style="">Perhaps that is why so many people have turned to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/dec/29/online-dating-christmas-romance" target="_blank">the magical world of online dating</a>&nbsp;in hopes of finding &quot;the one.&quot; &nbsp;By searching through detailed lists of potential partners, online daters can screen out the &quot;definitely nots&quot; and contact the &quot;definitely maybes&quot; at their discretion.</p><p style="">This process is far superior to meeting someone at a bar, realizing they are a drunken mess and not being able to get rid of them for the rest of the night.&nbsp;</p><p style="">We do almost everything online now: from banking to shopping to intense social networking via Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.&nbsp;So why do we hesitate to admit (and sometimes, outright&nbsp;<a href="http://itsnotamatch.com/2012/08/31/when-you-dont-want-to-admit-you-met-online/" target="_blank">deny</a>) our forays into online dating?&nbsp;</p><p style=""><em><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/US/notre-dame-football-star-manti-teo-dead-girlfriend/story?id=18232374" target="_blank">Catfish</a></em>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<a href="http://deadspin.com/manti-teos-dead-girlfriend-the-most-heartbreaking-an-5976517" target="_blank">Manti Te&rsquo;o</a>&nbsp;have not&nbsp;helped the continued stigma surrounding Internet romance; but thankfully, instances of extreme deception are few and far between. For the most part, the people whose profiles you see on&nbsp;<a href="http://www.okcupid.com" target="_blank">OkCupid</a>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<a href="http://www.eharmony.com" target="_blank">EHarmony</a>&nbsp;are just as &quot;normal&quot; as the random people that you encounter in your everyday life, if not more so.&nbsp;</p><p style="">Unfortunately, the appropriate answer to the question &quot;How did you guys meet?&quot; is often discussed ad nauseum by Internet-joined couples (&quot;Should we tell them or not tell them?&quot; &quot;I guess we wouldn&#39;t be <em>lying</em>&nbsp;if we said that we met at a coffeeshop...&quot;) when a simple &quot;We met on <a href="http://jdate.com" target="_blank">JDate</a>&quot; would suffice.</p><p style="">For the sake of future headaches and lots of unnecessary backtracking, it&#39;s best to be honest the first time around.&nbsp;</p><p style="">According to this helpful&nbsp;<a href="http://ansonalex.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Statistics-Online-Dating-2013-Infographic-Large.png?d5aadb" target="_blank">infographic</a>&nbsp;from StatisticBrain, 40 million Americans have tried online dating. Even more encouraging:</p><ul><li style="">20 percent of current committed relationships in the U.S. started online</li><li style="">17 percent of couples married last year met on an online dating site&nbsp;</li></ul><p style="">Online dating is&nbsp;<a href="http://www.kennesawcommunication.com/2013/04/22/online-dating-the-new-norm/" target="_blank">the norm</a>&nbsp;for millenials in the digital age. If you&#39;ve found happiness with someone that you met via the Internet, then by all means, &quot;come out&quot; and tell your story! Maybe your positive experience will reassure others as well, reminding them their perfect match could also be just a click away.&nbsp;</p><p style=""><em>Leah Pickett writes about popular culture for WBEZ. Follow her on Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/leahkpickett" target="_blank">@leahkpickett</a>.&nbsp;</em></p></p> Wed, 01 May 2013 08:00:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-05/internet-couples-fess-your-friends-106914 3 at 3: Three ways to find your one true love (or...someone that works just fine for now) http://www.wbez.org/blog/bez/2012-02-14/3-3-three-ways-find-your-one-true-love-orsomeone-works-just-fine-now-96393 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/blog/photo/2012-February/2012-02-14/helen fisher.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>&nbsp;</p><div class="inset"><p><span style="font-size:10px;">Listen to Carrie Shepherd on <em>Afternoon Shift</em></span></p><p><span class="filefield_audio_insert_player" href="/sites/default/files/3 at 3.mp3" id="filefield_audio_insert_player-125777" player="null">3 at 3.mp3</span></p></div><p>Everyday on&nbsp;<em>Afternoon Shift with Steve Edwards</em>, WBEZ producers and staff will pop in to share their "3 at 3"-three things that are keeping us intrigued, entertained, annoyed or just distracting us throughout the day (insider secret: the segment actually starts about 2:50 pm but this is radio, not military time). Today, in the spirit of the red shirt I'm wearing (which is in the spirit of Valentine's Day), I'm featuring three things that can help smooth your path to love:</p><div><p><strong>1.&nbsp;<a href="http://www.helenfisher.com/" target="_blank">Helen Fisher</a>: Biological anthropologist.</strong> Those are two words that would normally lose me, but not this time. Fisher's work is awesome. Steve suggested her for today's show because she researches the science of attraction-why we choose (or run from) the partners we do. Being Valentine's Day and all, she's booked up, but plans to join us in the future. She's behind&nbsp;<a href="http://www.chemistry.com" target="_blank">chemistry.com</a>, and created a personality test that helps assess what kind of partner you are and what kind of person those traits attract. Listen to her explain some of her findings in this&nbsp;TED video:</p><p><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/OYfoGTIG7pY" width="560"></iframe></p><p><strong>2.&nbsp;<a href="https://twitter.com/#%21/OkcLovesTheWire" target="_blank">OKC Loves <em>The Wire</em></a>: </strong>This Twitter feed culls the free online dating site&nbsp;<a href="http://www.okcupid.com/" target="_blank">OkCupid</a>&nbsp;for profiles that mention the critically-acclaimed TV series&nbsp;The Wire.&nbsp;(Check out&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wbez.org/blog/justin-kaufmann/2011-09-23/wikipedia-files-michael-k-williams-omar-wire-92391">Omar on Wikipedia Files</a>). Some are hilarious and might make you consider them for a date. Others? Not so much.</p><p><strong>3. Bibio:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Eks4gB9tbE" target="_blank">"Lover's Carvings"</a>.</strong> I don't know much about&nbsp;<a href="http://www.myspace.com/mrbibio" target="_blank">this guy</a>-just that he's a British DJ and released a&nbsp;<a href="http://pitchfork.com/reviews/albums/15279-mind-bokeh/" target="_blank">new album last year</a>. I heard this song somewhere,&nbsp;<a href="http://www.shazam.com/" target="_blank">Shazam'd</a>&nbsp;it and loved it! It starts out slow and sweet-very cinematic, then halfway through becomes an entirely different song-upbeat, globally-infused and pop-y. And, with that title, how could you go wrong on a day like today.</p><p>Enjoy and Happy Valentine's Day! Leave any of your suggestions for finding true love in the comments section below.</p></div></p> Tue, 14 Feb 2012 18:59:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/blog/bez/2012-02-14/3-3-three-ways-find-your-one-true-love-orsomeone-works-just-fine-now-96393