WBEZ | Irena Kolokov http://www.wbez.org/tags/irena-kolokov Latest from WBEZ Chicago Public Radio en I do, we do: Proposing in public http://www.wbez.org/blogs/onstagebackstage/2012-09/i-do-we-do-proposing-public-102413 <p><p><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/4609521978_e251c301ec_z.jpg" style="float: left; height: 199px; width: 300px; " title="A proposal at a Yankees vs. Twins game in 2010. (Flickr/Kai Brinker)" />Last week<a href="http://gawker.com/5940288/before-proposing-to-girlfriend-man-fakes-his-own-death-to-show-her-how-meaningless-life-would-be-without-him">, Gawker drew our attention</a> to one of the worst proposals of all time; a man chose to fake his own death before proposing to his girlfriend. He said he did it because &quot;I wanted her to realize how empty her life would be without me and how life would have no meaning without me.&quot; As one commenter wrote, &quot;Still less obnoxious than a flashmob.&quot;</p><p>Comedian Julia Weiss says that&#39;s the problem with proposals: they&#39;re all about knowing someone else&#39;s business. To Weiss, &quot;reality television has blurred the lines between life and entertainment, and no one knows how to be a human unless someone is watching.&quot; Read an excerpt below or listen above:</p><p><em>On a cloudy day in Omsk, Russia,&nbsp;</em><em>Irena Kolokov and her boyfriend Alexy Bykov</em><em>&nbsp;had plans to go out. But when Irena arrived at the spot they&#39;d arranged for their romantic rendezvous, what she found was far from what she expected. &ldquo;There were mangled cars everywhere, ambulances, smoke and carnage,&rdquo; Irena told reporters. As she took in the horror of her surroundings, a paramedic approached her. &ldquo;Alexey is dead,&rdquo; he said. </em></p><p><em>I bet her stomach did that rollercoaster thing that stomachs do when you know that you&#39;ve done something irrevocably bad, like you left your iPhone in a cab, or you just replied all on an e-mail saying your boss has fat fingers and a bad attitude, or you know, someone you deeply love is laying in a pool of their own blood on the cold, Russian asphalt. Because she&#39;s a human with feelings, Irena broke down in tears. And then, like in a dream, or sick f***ing nightmare depending on who you ask, the bloodied and bandaged Alexey Bykov rose from the dead, pulled out a ring and asked the question. THE question. The question that women are told they&#39;re waiting for since the moment their mothers shed the afterbirth.&ldquo;Will You Marry Me?&rdquo;</em></p><p><em>Alexey and Irena are just another drop the performed, public marriage proposal bucket, something that has become a full blown trend. It&#39;s the new hilarious first-dance, which was the new choreographed bridal party entrance which I guess was the new chocolate fountain, which is never gonna die. Not on my watch. No sir.</em></p><p><em>I wonder, often, why proposals are still a thing to begin with. You already have sex. You probably live together. Maybe you already have a child. You&#39;re not buying a woman from her father, so why bother with marriage at all, let alone proposing marriage, let alone hiring actors, directors, and designers, commissioning local businesses or bussing in a marching band to help you? Our generation seems trapped in a confused mess of tradition and heteronormitivity, and intense need to feel unique and important, and hyper-public, ante-upping showmanship. We&#39;ve been given the anatomy of romance, from romantic comedies and our parents&#39; photo albums and fairy tales, and Disney&#39;s retelling of Fairy Tales. We have all the black lines and we&#39;re encouraged to color inside of them, but in a way that lets us feel like we&#39;re finger painting on the dining room wall.</em></p><p><a href="http://thepapermacheteshow.com/" target="_blank">The Paper Machete</a><em>&nbsp;is a weekly live magazine at the Horseshoe in North Center. It&#39;s always at 3 pm., it&#39;s always on Saturday, and it&#39;s always free. Get all your</em>&nbsp;The Paper Machete Radio Magazine&nbsp;<em>needs filled&nbsp;<a href="http://www.wbez.org/tags/paper-machete" target="_blank">here</a>, or download the podcast from iTunes&nbsp;<a href="http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/the-paper-machete-radio-magazine/id450280345" target="_blank">here</a>.</em></p></p> Fri, 14 Sep 2012 08:00:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/onstagebackstage/2012-09/i-do-we-do-proposing-public-102413