WBEZ | nico lang http://www.wbez.org/tags/nico-lang Latest from WBEZ Chicago Public Radio en 'God is not a bully' spreads message of love to LGBTQ people http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-06/god-not-bully-spreads-message-love-lgbtq-people-107761 <p><p><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/ap091027012540-8d220f817238e983ba45441089b07fd1e3a1148a-s3.jpg" title="Andreas Schoelzel/AP" /></p><p>When I came out in my church I was 16 and still wearing ascots for ties. I was a mop of hair looking for guidance in the faith that had given me a home. I chose to be a Baptist because of its overt grounding in community and its personalism over the Latin coldness of my mother&rsquo;s Catholicism. Being a Baptist was a call to dance, and there can&rsquo;t be a revolution without dancing.</p><p>Then I was called into the Pastor&rsquo;s office. He gave me a choice. I could choose either my &ldquo;desires&rdquo; or my religion. The church could never be a home for my perversion.</p><p>But it wasn&rsquo;t just God&rsquo;s flock that was after me. God himself was waiting for me&mdash;with a sniper rifle. The Pastor told me about the high rates of HIV, depression, suicide and death from drug use in the gay community as empirical evidence of divine wrath.</p><p>&ldquo;God&rsquo;s waiting to cut you down,&rdquo; he claimed. &ldquo;And he&rsquo;ll get you eventually, when you least expect it.&rdquo;</p><p>I left the church, where I&rsquo;d been renowned for my poetry. I even placed in a national competition for it, but I felt like that voice would never be heard. I hugged the people who loved me goodbye, the ones who vocally supported my coming out. They felt like I could make a difference.</p><p>However, the pastor&rsquo;s hate spoke louder. I wasn&rsquo;t strong enough yet to let Him hate me, so I gave him up. I closed the door.</p><p>A new movement is working to tear down the barriers to entry for those who have been excluded from the church and told they didn&rsquo;t fit the definition of God&rsquo;s love. God Is Not a Bully is a video project in which LGBTQ people share the message that &ldquo;God is love, not hate&rdquo; by telling their personal experiences of religion and finding embrace for exactly who they are, all of it.</p><p>&ldquo;I know that the bullying rhetoric of religion and of people in power in the Church has a devastating effect on queer people,&rdquo; Cathy Knight, the project&rsquo;s Executive Director, said. &ldquo;Young people in particular look up to clergy folks, believe what they say as authority as they develop their own belief system. When clergy espouse that LGBTQ people are an abomination and a sin, that message is internalized. The shame and heartache begins.&rdquo;</p><p>For Knight, this speaks to her own journey as a person of faith, where she and many of her friends struggled with the pain that comes from feeling like you have nowhere to belong.</p><p>&ldquo;I attended United Methodist Churches for years, hearing the annual sermon that I was a sinner because of my sexual orientation,&quot; Knight said. &ldquo;The confusion of the message and how I felt about myself had to be numbed out. I turned to drugs to stay sane. I was a drug addict, but I kept going to church.&rdquo;</p><p>She found spiritual guidance by discovering a congregation that affirmed multiplicity of identities, where she could be an out lesbian who also followed the message of Jesus Christ. Knight believes that there&rsquo;s an internal struggle within the church right now toward opening the doors and closing the windows, where the Pope can say that atheists can be good people and go to heaven but the institution of the church retracts it.</p><p>&ldquo;It&rsquo;s hard to change something that often doesn&rsquo;t want to change,&rdquo; Knight said.</p><p>God Is Not a Bully doesn&rsquo;t hope to change religion, but provide a resource for its queer followers.</p><p>Anna DeShawn, the founder of E3 Radio and a collaborator on the project, says that many single out queer people for marginalization by highlighting the Clobber scriptures&mdash;or the Bible verses devoted to condemning homosexuality&mdash;and taking a literal interpretation.</p><p>&ldquo;They&rsquo;re used to control people,&rdquo; DeShawn said. &ldquo;If we did that for every verse in the Bible, we wouldn&rsquo;t eat meat and we would be sacrificing sons.&rdquo;</p><p>DeShawn hopes that sharing the stories will challenge the restrictive messages of hate and reclaim God by changing the conversation.</p><p>&ldquo;We embarked upon this project to uplift and encourage young people who are struggling with their sexuality and their faith,&rdquo; DeShawn said. &ldquo;The stories that have been shared are real and my hope is that the message will touch the hearts of those that watch.&quot;</p><p>In a video on the project&#39;s <a href="http://www.cwac.us/video/my-god-not-bully-videos" style="text-decoration:none;" target="_blank">website</a>, Emily McConnell discusses her own personal understanding of religion as a child, inspired by her diverse upbringing.</p><p>&ldquo;I didn&rsquo;t agree with any fundamentalist idea of God,&rdquo; McConnell said. &nbsp;&ldquo;I didn&rsquo;t agree with anybody who told me that any group of people were automatically condemned for something they didn&rsquo;t have a choice in.&quot;</p><p>Instead McConnell understood God as &ldquo;universal&rdquo; and his love as &ldquo;extending to those of all kinds.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;Any kind of sexuality [is] a gift from God,&rdquo; she argued.</p><p>You can find McConnell&rsquo;s story along with those of others on the God Is Not a Bully website. The campaign will post videos throughout the month of June for pride month.</p><p>Their videos won&rsquo;t open every window to religion. But for queer religious people struggling in the dark like I was, they offer some much needed light.</p><p><em>Nico Lang writes about LGBTQ issues in Chicago. You can follow Nico on <a href="http://www.facebook/nicorlang">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://www.twitter.com/nico_lang">Twitter</a> or <a href="http://achatwithnicolang.tumblr.com">Tumblr</a>.</em></p></p> Wed, 19 Jun 2013 00:10:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-06/god-not-bully-spreads-message-love-lgbtq-people-107761 Obituary for a man I knew for 10 minutes http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-05/obituary-man-i-knew-10-minutes-107233 <p><p><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/flickr_Fuzzy%20Gerdes.jpg" style="float: right; height: 263px; width: 350px;" title="File: Chicago sunrise. (Flickr/Fuzzy Gerdes)" />Last week I got to meet a man in the last six hours of his life, although I obviously didn&rsquo;t know that at the time. I don&rsquo;t remember his name or where he was from, but I believe he was born in India. I shook his hand and looked at his face.&nbsp;He was visiting my roommate, dressed in a comically oversized suit and a cheap bowtie. He looked like he was dressed to perform at a child&rsquo;s birthday party, the kind of man who might be secretly versed in magic. With golden apple cheeks covered in whiskers, he had the kind of warmth that sticks with you, like someone out of a Bob Hope movie.</p><p>He and my roommate searched for a particular brand of cigarettes on the streets of Devon all day, and as they waited for the elevator, they were going upstairs to her boyfriend&rsquo;s place in retreat. They found out the cigarettes are illegal here, even though her boyfriend swore you could buy them on the street. I said goodbye to him as the elevator doors opened. I never saw him again. His bags are still in my apartment; his military duffle rests against my couch and his books linger on my table.</p><p>Shortly after meeting me, he fell out from the fourteenth story of our Edgewater apartment complex. The selling point of our building, which is otherwise the sort of economy buy that attracts college students and recent immigrants, is the view: a panoramic gaze upon the shores of an endless crush. On quiet days, I like to sit on my windowsill and watch the cold fabric continually wrinkle toward me, as if it were an invitation to meet. When he saw the lake and the sunrise that bursts into our apartment every morning, he decided to poke his head out to take a look.</p><p>My roommate described him as an adventurer, a &quot;reckless Lisbon type&quot; who wasn&rsquo;t afraid of anything, even something as unbeatable as gravity. He reminded me of Shakespeare&rsquo;s Mercutio, the type who narrowly stays out of trouble until it eventually finds him. My roommate trusted him to continue his record of narrow escape and went to the restroom. When she came back, he was gone. She figured that he went up to the roof to get a closer look and took her boyfriend with her to go get him, just in case. He wasn&rsquo;t there either. She was the one who found him on the sidewalk. I can still see the mark he left behind.</p><p>After the incident, I didn&rsquo;t see my roommate for days and wondered where the visitor had gone. She mentioned he would be staying with us. Was he too busy exploring? Were the sights that intoxicating he couldn&rsquo;t resist staying out all the time? On Monday morning, a neighbor approached me to tell me she had seen an ambulance earlier that day. She wondered if I had seen it too, or if the white sheet was a ghost only she had witnessed. I confessed I hadn&rsquo;t seen or heard anything and quickly dismissed it, sure everything was fine.</p><p>I went outside to look and the ambulances were still there, cleaning up the scene. I was still sure everything was fine. I never thought to connect the two events, until I got the news. I haven&rsquo;t been able to stop thinking about that moment since, my casual ignorance of how precious and fragile life is. I&rsquo;ve spent the time since reflecting and trying to take it in, mourning a man whose name I can&rsquo;t remember off the top of my head. Writers often want to put a period on things and give a closure to our lives. We want to celebrate the living and eulogize the departed to give their lives meaning. It&#39;s what we are born for.</p><p>I can&rsquo;t give his life meaning, because I hope it already had that. I hope that, as he fell, he had the time to pray (if he is a person who prays) and settle up his tab on good terms with the proprietors. I hope he had the time to reflect and make amends in his heart where forgiveness was needed and that his mind was clear enough to leave one final thought, something you would want to write down for later. I hope he got one last look at that view.</p><p>We live with a third girl, who we&rsquo;ll call Ann. In the last few days, she has found comfort in faith, revisiting the spirituality that helps the world make sense during times like these. But I don&rsquo;t believe in God. I believe in us. I believe in our power to find light in the darkness and create meaning out of chaos. Humanity is my faith, even when its tested in moments like these. Humanity brings me back to the light.</p><p>I keep thinking of a man I met on the train a few weeks ago. He was coming from Panama to visit his mother for Mother&#39;s Day. He&#39;s traveled the world and found one constant.</p><p>&quot;They always say the world is a terrible place and people are out to get you,&quot; he told me. &quot;But the one thing I&#39;ve learned is the world is good. The world is good. The world is good.&quot;</p><p>Even as I can&#39;t help but mourn for the visitor and for his family&#39;s loss, I have to remember this. The world is good.</p><p><em>Nico Lang writes about LGBTQ issues in Chicago. You can find Nico on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/nicorlang" target="_blank">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://www.twitter.com/nico_lang" target="_blank">Twitter</a> or <a href="http://achatwithnicolang.tumblr.com" target="_blank">Tumblr</a>.</em></p></p> Fri, 17 May 2013 11:28:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-05/obituary-man-i-knew-10-minutes-107233 Kristen Stewart, slut-shaming and the war on women http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-05/kristen-stewart-slut-shaming-and-war-women-107094 <p><p dir="ltr"><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/kristen-stewart.jpg" style="height: 305px; width: 620px;" title="Kristen Stewart braves the Toronto premiere of 'On the Road'. (AP/Marion Curtis) " /></p><p dir="ltr">I&rsquo;ve always known I would have a daughter someday. With my brothers, father, uncles and their friends, I was surrounded by men who shaped my understanding of the world. A classic workaholic, my father taught me the importance of playing by society&rsquo;s rules, doing what was necessary to get ahead. As a former nerd, all he wanted to do was fit in and be one of the guys.</p><p dir="ltr">My father and his friends had a term for girls: &ldquo;Psycho bitches from hell.&rdquo;</p><p dir="ltr">At the age of three, he taught me how to catcall. He trained me to whistle at women in the grocery store and yell things like, &ldquo;Hubba Hubba!&rdquo; The woman would usually tell me how cute I was.</p><p dir="ltr">&ldquo;You&rsquo;ll be a real heartbreaker someday,&rdquo; she would say.</p><p dir="ltr">My dad would wink and nudge me, rewarding me for sexual harassment and complicit masculinity. This is the world I grew up in.</p><p dir="ltr">But it wasn&rsquo;t supposed to be. I was supposed to be a girl. My mother was going to call me Natasha, Tasha for short. I wonder what life would have been like as Tasha, even though I&rsquo;ve always hated that name. Sometimes when my mother looks at me, I can see she&rsquo;s wondering the same thing&mdash;what it would feel like to have a daughter. It looks like fear.</p><p dir="ltr">Yesterday I felt my mother&rsquo;s eyes on me again. <em>Reader&rsquo;s Digest</em> released their annual poll of the most and least trusted people in the world. Topping the list was Tom Hanks, long a leader of dependability in the U.S. He often ranks near the top, and joining him were actors like Denzel Washington, Meryl Streep and Sandra Bullock.</p><p dir="ltr">But guess who <a>ranked at the bottom</a>? America&rsquo;s &ldquo;least trusted&rdquo; actress is Kristen Stewart, who also placed second on Star&rsquo;s &ldquo;Most Hated Celebrity&rdquo; list.</p><p dir="ltr">In the poll, Stewart boasts a whopping 24 percent &quot;trust&quot; score, which is the Digest&#39;s version of approval rating. That&rsquo;s nearly as <a href="http://www.gallup.com/poll/116500/presidential-approval-ratings-george-bush.aspx,%20">low</a> as George W. Bush when he left office in 2008 and Nixon during the <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/16/congress-approval-rating-porn-polygamy_n_1098497.html">Watergate Scandal</a>. She&rsquo;s only slightly more popular than BP during the <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/16/congress-approval-rating-porn-polygamy_n_1098497.html">infamous oil spill</a> that cost billions of dollars worth of damage. She has the same approval rating as <a href="http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/150-years-later-23-of-americans-40-of-southerners-side-with-confederacy/">the Confederacy</a>. If it makes her feel better, celebutante Kim Kardashian racked up 8 percent, making her three times less popular than institutionalized slavery. (Ah, priorities.)</p><p dir="ltr">The popular magazine spoke to Dorothy Crenshaw, CEO of Crenshaw Communications (the PR agency behind Starbucks and Bain Capital), about Stewart&rsquo;s unpopularity. Crenshaw <a href="http://www.rd.com/slideshows/readers-digest-trust-poll-heres-what-shocked-us-the-most/#slideshow=slide7">put it bluntly</a>, &ldquo;Kristen Stewart&rsquo;s trust was damaged when she was unfaithful.&rdquo; She might as well have said, &quot;Don&#39;t trust a ho.&quot;</p><p dir="ltr">Unless you were vacationing on Mars, you&rsquo;re likely aware that Stewart became a <a href="http://www.afterellen.com/content/2012/08/trampire-slut-shaming-and-kristen-stewart">tabloid phenomenon</a> last year when the photos were taken of her in a romantic tryst with Rupert Sanders, the married director of her film, <em>Snow White and the Huntsman</em>. After the images leaked, Stewart quickly became the target of a collective witch hunt, and she had to hide in her hotel room to escape paparazzi and death threats from vengeful Twilight fans.</p><p dir="ltr">Will Ferrell mocked the scandal on Conan&mdash;the fact that America was so invested in the breakup of people they don&rsquo;t know. Ferrell pretended to break down over Stewart&rsquo;s infidelity, crying that she was a &ldquo;trampire.&rdquo; Rather than realizing they were being punked, the internet turned the joke into a viral meme. You could even order a &ldquo;Kristen Stewart Is a Trampire&rdquo; t-shirt to commemorate America&rsquo;s inability to understand satire. They say you vote with your dollar. In 2012, America voted for slut-shaming.</p><p dir="ltr">Although the media moved on from the story (aided by Pattinson and Stewart&rsquo;s reconciliation), the public clearly has not, and it has killed her career.</p><p dir="ltr">Despite being a big factor in building buzz for <em>Snow White and the Huntsman</em>&rsquo;s success, Stewart was initially dropped from the sequel by Universal. After much criticism, they re-hired her. The film has been pushed back to 2015, quite a delay for a film that made $400 million worldwide. IMDB doesn&rsquo;t even list a director attached. When <em>Safe House, Thor, Horrible Bosses, Captain America</em> and <em>Ted</em> boasted similar grosses, sequels were pushed into production almost immediately. A sequel to <em>The Hangover</em> got fast-tracked before it ever came out.</p><p dir="ltr">In the meantime, Stewart only has one other film lined up, and her <em>On the Road</em> adaptation was all but dumped by the studio despite <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/10/kristen-stewart-oscar-on-the-road_n_2270461.html">critical raves</a> for her performance. Topless photos <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/03/kristen-stewart-topless-naked-on-the-road_n_1937851.html">leaked</a> before <em>On the Road</em>&#39;s release got more buzz than the film. Like the film, her breasts were not well-received (and a British men&rsquo;s website later deemed her the &ldquo;<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/20/kristen-stewart-least-sexy-hollywood-actress_n_2723756.html">least sexy</a>&rdquo; actress in the world). She even canceled OTR press appearances after the scandal broke because she was &ldquo;<a href="http://metro.co.uk/2012/08/09/kristen-stewart-too-ashamed-to-attend-on-the-road-premiere-529700/">too ashamed</a>&rdquo; to be seen in public.</p><p dir="ltr">Although easy to laugh off, this sends a clear message about the double standards set for men and women. Case in point: Ashton Kutcher got a nod on America&rsquo;s least-liked list. But not because of his infidelity. <em>Reader&rsquo;s Digest</em> cited his <a href="http://online.wsj.com/article/PR-CO-20130507-912697.html">virulent Twitter presence</a> as the reason for his low score: &ldquo;Those with large social media audiences...drifted to the bottom of the list of those tested.&rdquo; His cheating scandal wasn&rsquo;t even considered relevant enough to be mentioned.</p><p dir="ltr">When I wrote about Stewart in 2012, I argued that her <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/nico-lang/trampires-why-the-slut-sh_b_1850940.html">constant slut-shaming</a> in the media was endemic of the <a href="http://www.aclu.org/blog/tag/war-women">War on Women</a>, a rhetoric that teaches us that female sexuality isn&rsquo;t to be trusted and tells young girls that they have to protect themselves from their own bodies. This was a time when many feared for repeal of their reproductive rights with the prospective of a Romney administration that would erase years of progress on gender equality.</p><p dir="ltr">With Obama promising to maintain Planned Parenthood, many feel like the battles were won. However, Stewart&rsquo;s continuing victimization shows how invisible war can be, the hidden microagressions that affect us every day. Last year, I wrote that Chris Brown could beat the crap out of his girlfriend in public (allegedly for being unfaithful) and win awards for it. After barely making it onto Star&rsquo;s Most Hated list (at #20), he didn&rsquo;t get listed in the <em>Reader&rsquo;s Digest</em> poll at all, yet Stewart did. We still have work to do.</p><p dir="ltr">I wonder how Tasha would have made sense of all this. Would she learn she can&rsquo;t trust Kristen Stewart? Would she look in Kristen Stewart&rsquo;s face and see fear? I hope she would see someone who is brave and strong in the face of constant criticism. To all the girls demonized as &quot;sluts&quot; for not being what society expects them to be and shamed for being human, Kristen Stewart should be a hero.</p><p dir="ltr">One day when I give my mother the daughter she wanted, I want to look into her newborn eyes and see hope, a promise that we can unlearn what we were taught and get it right next time. I plan on giving her the world. I just pray it&rsquo;s better than the one I grew up in.</p><p dir="ltr"><em>Nico Lang writes about LGBTQ issues in Chicago. You can find Nico on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/nico_lang">Facebook</a>, <a href="http://www.twitter.com/nicorlang">Twitter</a> or <a href="http://achatwithnicolang.tumblr.com">Tumblr</a>.</em></p></p> Thu, 09 May 2013 05:00:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-05/kristen-stewart-slut-shaming-and-war-women-107094 Best Picture breakdowns: Zero Dark Thirty is the best film of the year http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-01/best-picture-breakdowns-zero-dark-thirty-best-film-year-104855 <p><div class="image-insert-image "><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://www.wbez.org/system/files/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/ht_katheryn_bigelow_nt_121212_wblog.jpg" style="height: 169px; width: 300px; float: right;" title="Kathryn Bigelow (Dan Steinberg/AP)" />After <em>The Hurt Locker</em>&rsquo;s dethroning of <em>Avatar</em> for Best Picture in 2010, the stakes were high for Kathryn Bigelow to deliver with <em>Zero Dark Thirty</em>, a film that is as ambitious in scope and grand as The Hurt Locker was small and claustrophobic. <em>Zero Dark Thirty</em> was so big it had to fail. However, with her follow-up to her Oscar-winning classic, Bigelow has delivered what will be remembered as her masterpiece, a decade-spanning look into the black heart of the CIA and the dark subconscious of the American psyche. More than any film that&rsquo;s gotten the moniker, <em>Zero Dark Thirty</em> is a film about the Way We Live Now, a revenge epic less about torture than America&rsquo;s struggle to maintain its sense of itself as the major power in a shifting global landscape.</div><p>In giving us the definitive masterwork of the year, Bigelow opens with a bang, showing us the waterboarding and torture of detainees, in a way so matter-of-fact that many have mistaken the film for an endorsement of torture. However, the film is less about torture itself than how normative the culture of torture has become for the CIA and the people that the experience changes. The scene introduces us to Maya (Jessica Chastain), a young CIA officer recruited straight out of high school who is part of the film&rsquo;s mission to nab Osama Bin Laden. She will become the lead agent in his capture. We initially see Maya as conflicted and hesitant to witness the brutality casually enacted in front of her, but as the movie progresses, we see Maya slowly becoming like the men she&rsquo;s after&mdash;a stone cold killer who will do anything to complete the mission.</p><p>This is hardly the first film to highlight the parallels between those labeled &ldquo;good&rdquo; and &ldquo;bad&rdquo; and show that sometimes each of those sides wear each other&rsquo;s masks. Although this theme will draw comparisons to The Godfather, the film Bigelow&rsquo;s epic most reminded me of was the criminally underrated 2007 film Zodiac, the movie David Fincher made before <em>The Social Network</em>. In the film, Jake Gyllenhaal plays a cartoonist who is part of the team on the hunt for the Zodiac killer, a mission that will take over his life. Like Gyllenhaal&rsquo;s Robert Graysmith, Maya has no friends or life outside of Osama Bin Laden. Like Osama, Maya is a ghost&mdash;obsessed with finishing her business. When Osama is eventually hunted down and killed, as we all know happens, Maya is less celebratory than relieved and somewhat emptied by the experience. After the mission is over, what&rsquo;s next?</p><p>To breathe life into this one-woman crusade, Bigelow gets the finest performance yet out of Jessica Chastain, an actress who has very quickly made a career out of fine performances. With this role, Chastain proves herself to be the Meryl Streep of her generation, an actress who can seem like a different person each time she&rsquo;s on screen. The intensity and dedication Chastain brings to her obsessed CIA agent is the perfect match for her direction, whose nail-bitingly intense style may give some in the audience a stress disorder. Over the film&rsquo;s almost three hours, not a second of it feels unnecessary or drags, and Osama&rsquo;s capture may be one of the most thrilling action sequences I&rsquo;ve ever seen on film. As with Maya, this scene doesn&rsquo;t provide easy resolution or answers, and after Osama&rsquo;s death, the audience is left to stare into the faces of the wives and children who had to watch it happen. What do they make of this brutality? How will their lives be shaped by this conflict?</p><p>To force America to ask these questions and face the realities of American CIA tradecraft, Bigelow creates what is quickly becoming a new trend in American cinema: the genre of the reported film. What makes <em>Zero Dark Thirty </em>both more powerful and more slippery than this year&rsquo;s <em>Argo</em> is screenwriter Mark Boal&rsquo;s adherence to an almost documentary narrative, sticking to the facts in order to show you not what should be but what is. His script shouldn&rsquo;t just win an Oscar&mdash;it should win a Pulitzer. For an America that looked to Osama Bin Laden&rsquo;s death as the end of an era and an awakening from our neo-conservative, realist nightmare, Boal shows that separating ourselves from the fever dream of conflict may not be so simple. When you become the men you want to torture, how can you ever go back? Bigelow shows that there may be no waking up. This is America now.</p><p><em>Nico Lang blogs about LGBTQ life in Chicago for WBEZ.org. Follow Nico on Twitter <a href="http://www.twitter.com/Nico_Lang" target="_hplink">@Nico_Lang</a> or on <a href="http://www.facebook.com/NicoRLang" target="_hplink">Facebook</a>.</em></p></p> Fri, 11 Jan 2013 05:00:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/nico-lang/2013-01/best-picture-breakdowns-zero-dark-thirty-best-film-year-104855