WBEZ | EHarmony http://www.wbez.org/tags/eharmony Latest from WBEZ Chicago Public Radio en Internet couples, fess up to your friends http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-05/internet-couples-fess-your-friends-106914 <p><p><img alt="" class="image-original_image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/styles/original_image/llo/insert-images/tdy_martha_dating_130429.jpg" style="height: 210px; width: 280px; float: left;" title="Martha Stewart on Today. (NBC)" />In a recent <a href="http://www.today.com/news/martha-stewart-date-online-seeks-man-bed-breakfast-6C9659426" target="_blank">interview</a> with the <em>Today Show</em>&#39;s Matt Lauer, home and garden guru <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martha_stewart" target="_blank">Martha Stewart</a>&nbsp;admitted to (gasp!) dipping her toe into online dating.&nbsp;</p><div class="image-insert-image " style="">Stewart went on <a href="http://www.match.com" target="_blank">Match.com</a>&nbsp;to find a potential date, but didn&#39;t get far in filling out her application.</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&quot;I started to laugh halfway down the page. It was, like, impossible.&quot; she said.</div><div class="image-insert-image " style="">&nbsp;</div><p style="">And then, lo and behold, Stewart made a live&nbsp;<em>Today Show</em> appearance Monday and agreed to <a href="http://www.today.com/news/martha-stewart-date-online-seeks-man-bed-breakfast-6C9659426" target="_blank">formally join</a> the online dating world.</p><p style="">&quot;I&#39;d like to have breakfast with somebody,&quot; Stewart admitted to the chief executive of Match, <a href="http://time100.time.com/2013/04/18/time-100/slide/sam-yagan/" target="_blank">Sam Yagan</a>,&nbsp;&quot;I&#39;d like to go to bed with somebody. Sleep with somebody.&quot;</p><p style="">These words may seem shocking coming from Stewart. But really, isn&#39;t that what everyone wants? Companionship is a basic human need, and the desire for intimacy without judgment is universal.</p><p style="">Perhaps that is why so many people have turned to&nbsp;<a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/dec/29/online-dating-christmas-romance" target="_blank">the magical world of online dating</a>&nbsp;in hopes of finding &quot;the one.&quot; &nbsp;By searching through detailed lists of potential partners, online daters can screen out the &quot;definitely nots&quot; and contact the &quot;definitely maybes&quot; at their discretion.</p><p style="">This process is far superior to meeting someone at a bar, realizing they are a drunken mess and not being able to get rid of them for the rest of the night.&nbsp;</p><p style="">We do almost everything online now: from banking to shopping to intense social networking via Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.&nbsp;So why do we hesitate to admit (and sometimes, outright&nbsp;<a href="http://itsnotamatch.com/2012/08/31/when-you-dont-want-to-admit-you-met-online/" target="_blank">deny</a>) our forays into online dating?&nbsp;</p><p style=""><em><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/US/notre-dame-football-star-manti-teo-dead-girlfriend/story?id=18232374" target="_blank">Catfish</a></em>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<a href="http://deadspin.com/manti-teos-dead-girlfriend-the-most-heartbreaking-an-5976517" target="_blank">Manti Te&rsquo;o</a>&nbsp;have not&nbsp;helped the continued stigma surrounding Internet romance; but thankfully, instances of extreme deception are few and far between. For the most part, the people whose profiles you see on&nbsp;<a href="http://www.okcupid.com" target="_blank">OkCupid</a>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<a href="http://www.eharmony.com" target="_blank">EHarmony</a>&nbsp;are just as &quot;normal&quot; as the random people that you encounter in your everyday life, if not more so.&nbsp;</p><p style="">Unfortunately, the appropriate answer to the question &quot;How did you guys meet?&quot; is often discussed ad nauseum by Internet-joined couples (&quot;Should we tell them or not tell them?&quot; &quot;I guess we wouldn&#39;t be <em>lying</em>&nbsp;if we said that we met at a coffeeshop...&quot;) when a simple &quot;We met on <a href="http://jdate.com" target="_blank">JDate</a>&quot; would suffice.</p><p style="">For the sake of future headaches and lots of unnecessary backtracking, it&#39;s best to be honest the first time around.&nbsp;</p><p style="">According to this helpful&nbsp;<a href="http://ansonalex.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Statistics-Online-Dating-2013-Infographic-Large.png?d5aadb" target="_blank">infographic</a>&nbsp;from StatisticBrain, 40 million Americans have tried online dating. Even more encouraging:</p><ul><li style="">20 percent of current committed relationships in the U.S. started online</li><li style="">17 percent of couples married last year met on an online dating site&nbsp;</li></ul><p style="">Online dating is&nbsp;<a href="http://www.kennesawcommunication.com/2013/04/22/online-dating-the-new-norm/" target="_blank">the norm</a>&nbsp;for millenials in the digital age. If you&#39;ve found happiness with someone that you met via the Internet, then by all means, &quot;come out&quot; and tell your story! Maybe your positive experience will reassure others as well, reminding them their perfect match could also be just a click away.&nbsp;</p><p style=""><em>Leah Pickett writes about popular culture for WBEZ. Follow her on Twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/leahkpickett" target="_blank">@leahkpickett</a>.&nbsp;</em></p></p> Wed, 01 May 2013 08:00:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/blogs/leah-pickett/2013-05/internet-couples-fess-your-friends-106914