WBEZ | mother http://www.wbez.org/tags/mother Latest from WBEZ Chicago Public Radio en StoryCorps: Adoptive mom encourages teenage boy http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/storycorps-adoptive-mom-encourages-teenage-boy-111112 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/main-images/scorpsadopt.PNG" alt="" /><p><p>&ldquo;My mom was the only one there, but she was a good mom,&rdquo; Matt Fitzsimmons says in this week&rsquo;s StoryCorps. &ldquo;She loved us very much. But she didn&rsquo;t have much to work with, because she was a single mom. And she passed on from cancer when I was 14. My dad came back like two months before my mom passed, and he was going to take care of us. But my dad had enough troubles of his own, with alcohol. So my sister and I had to deal with a single alcoholic parent in the house and basically he was perpetually mad at us for no good reason.&rdquo;</p><p>Fitzsimmons came to StoryCorps with Shirley Paulson, a woman who&rsquo;d known him since before he was born. She had just moved back to Chicago around the time of Fitzsimmons&rsquo; mother&rsquo;s funeral.</p><p>&ldquo;I found you then after your younger sister had gone off to school and you were living alone then with your dad&hellip;That was bad. If I remember correctly you were living with your dad in the house with a dog and a couple cats and it seemed like they had more care than you did.&rdquo;</p><p>Paulson explains how Fitzsimmons worked one summer at a camp alongside their son, Tim.</p><p>&ldquo;When we went to the airport to pick up Tim from camp, Tim said, &lsquo;Matt needs a ride home. Can we bring him home?&rsquo; Sure. So we just jumped you in the car and when we dropped you off at your house, I was stunned to realize that here you&rsquo;d been away all summer, you got your luggage out of the car, went up to the house, and there was nobody there to even say hello.&quot;</p><p>&ldquo;Oh he was there,&rdquo; Fitzsimmons says. &ldquo;He was just asleep on the couch, with the five cars in the driveway and the lawn really long.&quot;</p><p>&ldquo;Exactly,&rdquo; Paulson says. &ldquo;Well, the next day was Labor Day and I thought: Why don&rsquo;t we invite Matt over? We thought maybe you&rsquo;d like to come and join us. So I was a little bit nervous calling you &lsquo;cause I didn&rsquo;t know you that well. So we invited you and you said so quickly: &lsquo;Yes! Sure!&rsquo;&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;And I noticed that you ate and ate and ate and ate. You were hungry. And so I said to my husband afterwards: &lsquo;Do you think Matt would like to come over for some more food tomorrow?&rsquo;&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;Then it became obvious that you were joining us more than the typical teenager coming over to have food with a family.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;I think I talked your head off,&rdquo; Fitzsimmons says. &ldquo;We talked a lot.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;Yeah, we did talk a lot,&rdquo; Paulson says, &ldquo;and I loved that. I felt honored that you would &ndash; as a teenager - take the time to talk to me. And share your life, and it meant so much to me. It really did. But I don&rsquo;t think you realized for a while what it meant to be in the family. It took you a while to register. And it was hard to do because you had to deal with the fact that you had a family. And yet you also were being part of us. And you had loyalty to your family, which was right to do.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;It was frustrating to me to have to drive you home every day across Glenview and drop you off into that nothing of a house. And then come back and pick you up the next day and bring you home and have some nice time with you and drive you back home again. And I thought: &lsquo;Why won&rsquo;t he just move in?&rsquo; But there was some stuff you had to deal with.&rdquo;</p><p>Fitzsimmons says, &ldquo;So, you were the nice person helping me. Then you converted into parental person, which is a huge shift, because you went from nice to &lsquo;You have to do this to get to the next stage of your life.&rsquo;&hellip;When I think about all those twists and turns throughout life. And if I didn&rsquo;t do this turn or that turn where would I be&hellip;That was probably the biggest turn for you to say, &lsquo;We&rsquo;re going to save him from devastation.&rsquo;&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;Of course we didn&rsquo;t think of saving you. We thought of we needed you. You&rsquo;ll get that through your head one of these days.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;I&rsquo;ll say it officially: I love you.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;Oh, Matt! Can I say &lsquo;I love you&rsquo; too?&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;You do all the time!&rdquo;</p><p><iframe frameborder="no" height="450" scrolling="no" src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=https%3A//api.soundcloud.com/playlists/6250422&amp;color=ff5500&amp;auto_play=false&amp;hide_related=false&amp;show_artwork=true&amp;show_comments=true&amp;show_user=true&amp;show_reposts=false" width="888px"></iframe></p></p> Mon, 17 Nov 2014 17:42:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/storycorps-adoptive-mom-encourages-teenage-boy-111112 Mother-daughter relationship evolves over time http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/mother-daughter-relationship-evolves-over-time-110158 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/main-images/Storycorps_140509_Judith Martinez.JPG" alt="" /><p><p>Judith Martinez has been a mother her entire life. But it hasn&rsquo;t always been easy.</p><p>Judith&rsquo;s father was abusive to her mother when she was a child. And as a teenager, she encouraged her mom to leave her dad. Eventually they did leave, and Judith had to help her mom raise her siblings. Judith struggled in school and worked as a cashier at a corner store to help her mom pay bills.</p><p>Then at age 16, Judith became pregnant and she had to decide how she was going to move forward.</p><p>&ldquo;When I told my mom, she got devastated&hellip;.and it crushed me.&rdquo;</p><p>&ldquo;So that&rsquo;s when I decided. Nobody put a gun to my head. These are consequences when you have sex. So now I&rsquo;m gonna deal with it. Whether I get support from my mom or not.&rdquo;</p><p>Judith was recorded for StoryCorps in Little Village, at a community organization called Enlace Chicago.</p><p><iframe frameborder="no" height="450" scrolling="no" src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Fplaylists%2F6250422" width="100%"></iframe></p></p> Fri, 09 May 2014 12:20:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/mother-daughter-relationship-evolves-over-time-110158 Chicagoan shaped and scarred by her childhood as an orphan http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/chicagoan-shaped-and-scarred-her-childhood-orphan-109267 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/main-images/Gina and Rosa again.JPG" alt="" /><p><p>When Rosa Salinaz was just three years old, her mother died in childbirth. Rosa&rsquo;s father, an immigrant stockyard worker, tried hiring babysitters, but taking care of the children proved too difficult.</p><p>All four siblings went to live in an orphanage where they had little interaction with each other. Rosa visited the Chicago StoryCorps booth where she was interviewed by her daughter, Gina Salinaz-Yacoub, about her experience as an orphan.&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Gina</strong>: So what was life like in the orphanage?</p><p><strong>Rosa</strong>: &hellip; The first thing you noticed was the smell. It smelled like disinfectant. You got up around 6:30, and then we had mass around 7:00 &hellip; had&nbsp; breakfast, then you had your chores, then you went to school, had supper at 6:00, had study hour at 7:00, and then we were in bed by 9:00.</p><p><strong>Gina</strong>: So it was pretty regimented?</p><p><strong>Rosa</strong>: Yeah.</p><p>Rosa explained that they were taken care of in the orphanage by Benedictine nuns, some of whom were nice, and some of whom were not.</p><p><strong>Rosa</strong>: ... (crying) There&rsquo;s always one or two that could make it like hell.</p><p>To hear more about Rosa&rsquo;s experience in the orphanage, including her treasured visits with her father, and her thoughts on how the experience shaped her, click on the audio above.</p><p><em>Katie Mingle is a producer for WBEZ and the Third Coast Festival.</em><br />&nbsp;</p><iframe frameborder="no" height="450" scrolling="no" src="https://w.soundcloud.com/player/?url=http%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Fplaylists%2F6250422" width="100%"></iframe></p><p>&nbsp;</p></p> Fri, 29 Nov 2013 05:00:00 -0600 http://www.wbez.org/series/storycorps/chicagoan-shaped-and-scarred-her-childhood-orphan-109267 Morning Shift: Tips for your summer BBQ http://www.wbez.org/programs/morning-shift-tony-sarabia/2013-08-02/morning-shift-tips-your-summer-bbq-108268 <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/main-images/BBQ-Flickr- digital vincent.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>Want to know what cuts would be best for your next BBQ? Butcher Bob Levitt lets us know how you can throw the BBQ of your dreams. And NPR host Scott Simon discusses why he decided to tweet about his mother&#39;s final days.</p><script src="//storify.com/WBEZ/morning-shift-34.js?header=false"></script><noscript>[<a href="//storify.com/WBEZ/morning-shift-34" target="_blank">View the story "Morning Shift: Tips for your summer BBQ" on Storify</a>]</noscript></p> Fri, 02 Aug 2013 08:27:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/programs/morning-shift-tony-sarabia/2013-08-02/morning-shift-tips-your-summer-bbq-108268 Morning Shift: Breastfeeding, politics and Marina City http://www.wbez.org/programs/morning-shift-tony-sarabia/2013-07-17/morning-shift-breastfeeding-politics-and-marina-city <img typeof="foaf:Image" src="http://llnw.wbez.org/main-images/Breast Feeding - Flickr - DMurray82.jpg" alt="" /><p><p>Social media and the issue of sharing breastfeeding photos has brought the debate about whether or not breastfeeding should be public on the web. What do you think? And Curious City explores Marina City and Bertrand Goldberg&#39;s life.</p><script src="//storify.com/WBEZ/morning-shift-breastfeeding-politics-and-marina-ci.js?header=false"></script><noscript>[<a href="//storify.com/WBEZ/morning-shift-breastfeeding-politics-and-marina-ci" target="_blank">View the story "Morning Shift: Breastfeeding, politics and Marina City" on Storify</a>]</noscript></p> Wed, 17 Jul 2013 08:10:00 -0500 http://www.wbez.org/programs/morning-shift-tony-sarabia/2013-07-17/morning-shift-breastfeeding-politics-and-marina-city