You know that feeling when you envy someone because they’re more successful, or you think they have a better life? That kind of jealousy can hit you in an almost physical way, even though you know better.
The new film Brad’s Status is all about that feeling. It stars Ben Stiller as Brad, a husband and father taking his son to visit colleges like Harvard and Tufts. The trip gets Brad thinking about his own college friends, who are much more successful that he is. Brad feels like a failure, and he’s jealous of his son’s options. Through a series of voiceovers in the film, he questions the choices he’s made in life.
Brad’s Status was written and directed by Mike White, who also created the HBO series Enlightened and wrote the films School of Rock, Nacho Libre and Beatriz at Dinner. White says his latest film was born of his own status anxiety — an anxiety that sometimes keeps him up at night.
“I find when I’m in that kind of frame of mind, it’s so embarrassing to talk about with other people. … There’s something just so not cool about it that I was like, Maybe there’s something to unpack here.”
On the universal nature of status anxiety
It’s funny because I gave the script to Ben Stiller, who is the star, and if anyone’s successful in our business as a contemporary of mine (he’s a few years older) it’s Ben Stiller. He’s had a huge Hollywood career, and he was like, “I so relate to this character.” …
Everybody has their different trip. A lot of people, they want to be impressive or they want to have a public persona or they want a voice in the public sphere, and I think those people tend to always want more. They get a dose of success and it’s like a drug and they need more of it or they need it better. It becomes a compulsive life behavior. …
He says it in the movie, but it’s definitely a waste of time and energy. … It’s a universal situation, but I also think that now more than ever with social media and the way you can access people’s lives through Googling each other or getting on Instagram, you’re just kind of more aware of, like, the curated lives of your contemporaries. And I think that creates a sense of anxiety or a sense of lack and feeling like “Is somebody’s vacation better than mine?” or “Is someone having a better life than mine?” And it is a high-end problem and absurd, but it is something that I think people contend with.
On how Brad envying his son reflects White’s own relationship with his father
I think that because my dad was enlightened in a certain sense — and the progression of where his parents were at, versus the kind of parent he was to me — he really allowed me to try to just become the person I wanted to be, as opposed to put a lot of things on me. So I haven’t struggled in the certain ways that he had to struggle.
And I think — I know he is happy and proud of his role as a parent. At the same time, I think sometimes I can see that because it was easier for me, because I didn’t have his parents, I do sense that there’s probably a part of him who maybe is jealous of that reality for me. Not like he doesn’t wish the best for me. I just see it: It was just easier for me because of him. …
It’s slightly emotional because I realized that the whole heart of the movie is just me telling my dad that I love him. I’m grateful for him and I see him as a success.
On his own decision not to have children
I think not having kids — you can direct some of the energy that people do direct toward their kids toward the public sphere or different kinds of things that I think really are positive for society. I think that there’s something great about not having kids. It’s not just a selfish thing to be like, “I don’t want to devote my life to caring for someone else.” I think there [are] other things you can do with that energy.
On premiering Beatriz at Dinner (about a Mexican-born masseuse stranded at a wealthy client’s house) just as Donald Trump became president
I was really grateful that I had written that movie, Beatriz at Dinner, because right at the inauguration is when we premiered it at Sundance. I think there’s a time where you really feel like you want to be, as an artist, speaking to something relevant that’s happening in the culture now. … I was glad that I wasn’t going and talking to the press about Nacho Libre at the moment where he was elected. I had this movie that really spoke to some of the issues that I think are facing the country. …
You want to feel like you’re part of the conversation. You feel sometimes, when your values are more vulnerable, it makes you want to dig deep and feel like, OK, there’s really a role for the artist now. Whether the other side will listen to it, I don’t know, but it feels like it’s worth trying to weigh in on these kinds of values for our country.
Lauren Krenzel and Heidi Saman produced and edited this interview for broadcast. Molly Seavy-Nesper and Nicole Cohen adapted it for the Web.
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