Ah, the sex toy double standard. He doesn’t mind her vibrator, but she feels threatened by his Fleshlight.   Is it reasonable to be in favor of gay rights but be against gay marriage for religious reasons?   Open marriage: Is it bad for kids? Is there a way to make it work in the long run?   Also, Dan interviews Salon’s sex and relationships writer Tracy Clark-Flory about the tendency in kinky circles to belittle and disdain vanilla folk.     Call us, won’t you? 206-201-2720   This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at AudiblePodcast.com/Savage   Today’s episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter “Savage” at checkout.   Check out Tracy’s article “What’s Wrong with ‘Vanilla’?”