Gretchen Rubin and Elizabeth Craft suggest you make the positive argument when you’re too hard on yourself—or your friends. Are you an abundance lover or a simplicity lover? Plus a listener question about what to do when it’s hard to do those happy things, and Liz’s Demerit and Gretchen’s Gold Star.

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